On Sex, Love, and Addiction, Dr. Rob Weiss, sex therapist and author of a dozen books on sex and relationship healing, interviews global experts like Dr’s. Sue Johnson, Harville Hendrix, Dr. Stan Tatkin, and Helen Fisher, Dr. Kenneth Adams among others. This podcast features robust discussions focused on healing from chronic infidelity, cheating, porn, and sex addiction, along with the pain of relationship betrayal. Dr. Rob is Chief Clinical Officer for Seeking integrity Treatment Centers. He is a 30-year licensed therapist, a Ph.D. sexologist, and author Sex Addiction 101, Prodependence, and Out of the Doghouse, among other books. This podcast is dedicated to bringing information, advice, and direction from experts around the world to those seeking answers to some of life’s most challenging questions.
http://www.sexandrelationshiphealing.com
Part 2: Porn, What’s The Big Deal? with Dr. Sandra Shachar
Sandra A. Shachar, Ph.D., is a Licensed Psychologist in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, and has over thirty years of clinical experience working with individuals, couples and families affected by Betrayal Trauma. She is also the author of The Porn Solution, which dives into the world of betrayal through porn use and what partners can do to navigate themselves through it. In this episode, Dr. Sandra talks about PTSD, intentional listening to your partner, and how to regain your partner’s trust.
TAKEAWAYS:
[1:50] How could I compete with a porn star?
[3:40] Women feel like if he’s watching porn, he’s checked out of the relationship.
[5:05] Can this sort of betrayal cause PTSD? Dr. Sandra believes so.
[11:40] How can you create meaningful dialogue when talking about something so difficult?
[14:20] You can create intentional listening while putting ‘guard rails’ on it.
[15:25] If your relationship is in crisis right now, it’s going to be okay. It doesn’t mean that’s where you’re going to end up.
[19:10] How can you rebuild trust again?
[25:30] If you have children, the reason to heal your relationship should be at the forefront of your mind.
RESOURCES:
Sex and Relationship Healing
@RobWeissMSW
Sex Addiction 101
Seeking Integrity
Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men
Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency
Out of the Doghouse by Robert Weiss
Drsandrashachar.com
Dr. Sandra on LinkedIn
The Porn Solution
QUOTES:
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“We depend on other human beings for our very survival. In order to survive as a human being, we need intimate connection with at least one other human being.”
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“What matters most in an intimate relationship is to feel seen, heard, and understood by your partner.”
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“If you have children, this affects them. The keeping of secrets, they feel all of that.”