On Sex, Love, and Addiction, Dr. Rob Weiss, sex therapist and author of a dozen books on sex and relationship healing, interviews global experts like Dr’s. Sue Johnson, Harville Hendrix, Dr. Stan Tatkin, and Helen Fisher, Dr. Kenneth Adams among others. This podcast features robust discussions focused on healing from chronic infidelity, cheating, porn, and sex addiction, along with the pain of relationship betrayal. Dr. Rob is Chief Clinical Officer for Seeking integrity Treatment Centers. He is a 30-year licensed therapist, a Ph.D. sexologist, and author Sex Addiction 101, Prodependence, and Out of the Doghouse, among other books. This podcast is dedicated to bringing information, advice, and direction from experts around the world to those seeking answers to some of life’s most challenging questions.
http://www.sexandrelationshiphealing.com
Going to Therapy Doesn’t Have to Be Impossible with Jason VanRuler
Jason VanRuler is a therapist, coach, speaker, and author dedicated to impacting those who make an impact. His first book, Get Past Your Past, is all about establishing a mindset of emotional health and resilience to find lasting wholeness. In this episode, Jason shares his personal self-development journey, why going to therapy is so difficult for so many people, and why our natural inclination is to hurt others; intentionally or not.
TAKEAWAYS:
[4:15] A little bit about Jason and how he became a therapist.
[10:10] Due to Jason’s rough upbringing, he knew he had to work on himself first before helping others.
[14:40] Jason explains the reason why he likes to host outdoor retreats and how it helps with the healing process.
[21:30] Best way to change your past and maladaptive behaviors is by surrounding yourself with different people.
[22:05] It’s important to be honest with yourself and really benchmark where you’re currently are.
[25:15] The more successful we get, the less likely we become surrounded by people who tell us the truth.
[30:15] Therapists are truth tellers and this is why going to therapy is so hard.
[37:45] There was a time in Jason’s life where going to therapy seemed impossible.
[38:45] What can we do today that empowers a better story?
[40:45] Have a question for Jason? Reach out!
RESOURCES:
Sex and Relationship Healing
@RobWeissMSW
Sex Addiction 101
Seeking Integrity
Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men
Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency
Out of the Doghouse by Robert Weiss
Jasonvr.com
Jason on LinkedIn
Get Past Your Past
QUOTES:
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“We aspire to have something that only a different community will give us. If don’t have a different community, our current one just keeps us in the same spot.”
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“Be honest with where you’re at. So many times we fantasize how we want it to look.”
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“I think people always hurt people. Always. I don’t think people have gotten out of life without hurting other people, sometimes it’s intentional and sometimes it’s not. ”