The podcast for GPs, hospital doctors and other professionals in high-stakes, high-stress jobs who want to thrive rather than just survive. You studied for years, you’re really good at what you do but you’ve noticed that you’re starting to feel overwhelmed, overworked and under-resourced. You may be comparing yourself to a frog in boiling water - the heat has built up so slowly that you haven’t noticed the extra-long days becoming the norm. You may feel on the edge and trapped in the very job that you’ve spent years working towards. Here’s the problem, frogs only have two choices; stay and be boiled alive, or jump out of the pan. The good news is that you are not a frog. You have many more choices than you think you do. You don’t have to quit, and nor should stress and burnout be inevitable. It is possible to be master of your own destiny, to craft your work life and career so that you can thrive even in the most difficult of situations. There are simple changes you can make which will make a huge difference to your stress levels and help you enjoy life again...
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episode 211: How to Tell People What You REALLY Think
Saying what you really feel – especially in a high-stress job – is no easy task. Crucial conversations are often avoided for fear of damaging relationships. These unaired grievances get bottled up and over time can increase our level of stress.
But there are three core conditions for effective conversation that can help here: empathy (stepping into someone else’s shoes), unconditional respect (accepting the other’s right to be as they are), and congruence (expressing our thoughts and feelings authentically).
Sadly, ignoring a problem with another person – or avoiding giving negative feedback – won't make them go away. On the contrary, too many important things going unsaid can lead to a toxic environment where stress levels rise, relationships break down, and productivity suffers.
But, by stepping into the other party’s shoes, respecting their right to be as they are, and expressing our own thoughts authentically, we can create a more psychologically safe environment where issues are dealt with respectfully.
Listen to this episode to- Learn about the three core conditions for effective conversation
- Understand how balancing these conditions can improve communication and lead to healthier relationships
- Discover strategies to identify and address conversations you've been avoiding, reducing stress and unresolved conflicts
Episode highlights
- [00:03:50] Where people struggle to say what they mean
- [00:04:44] Bringing your whole self to work
- [00:08:59] The 3 core conditions for being with people
- [00:17:56] What to do if you're stuck in a "must-win" mindset
- [00:22:10] Saying what you really mean
- [00:27:27] Identifying your emotions
- [00:31:01] When to ask for help
- [00:34:20] How to give difficult feedback
- [00:39:42] How to take difficult feedback
- [00:43:54] When tricky feedback situations become unpleasant
- [00:48:53] Lasy's top tips
About the guest
Lasy encourages people to bring their authentic selves to work, promoting a healthier and more honest work environment. She co-founded Conscious Business People to advocate for bringing our entire personality to come to work, over surface-level perks like dress-down Fridays. Her mission is to make people see work as part of their life and to enhance authenticity in the workplace.
Website | LinkedIn
Resources- THRIVE Weekly Planner
- Watch the video version on YouTube
- More episodes of You Are Not a Frog:
- How to Get Moving Again When You Feel Stuck – Episode 207 with Nicola Rylett-Jones
- How to Challenge Upsetting Behaviour – Episode 192 with Dr Chris Turner
- What Happens When We’re Really Listened to – Episode 180 with Tom Dillon
- Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.
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