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“Emotional Immaturity........ Emotional Maturity Thoughts about life are simplistic, literal, and rigid. Dislike the uncertainty of an evolving reality. A need to control others through guilt, anger or shame. View others as incompetent. Express charm and charisma. Define self and others by their roles in a binary way: submissive or dominant. Poor filters, say whatever comes to mind without regard for others' feelings. Claim it is "being honest." Poor listeners, unattuned, and unable to resonate with others who disagree with them. Resist and deny reality, especially when it does not fit with their opinions. "Affective realism" - things are as they feel at the moment. Unable to learn from errors because actions are not connected as a possible cause of harm to others. Fundamentally fearful and insecure. Defend what is familiar because complexity is overwhelming. Do not trust or desire to learn or comprehend complex concepts. Rigid about rules but change the rules when it benefits them. Proud of being unyielding and judgmental, but call their rigid thinking "moral fortitude." Use superficial logic to shut down other people's feelings. "You shouldn't feel that way because..." Believe that if only others would plan well enough, they can avoid all mistakes, and others should always feel bad about their mistakes. See other people's boundaries as something to overcome. Appreciate the nuances of life and how things are constantly changing. Aware they cannot and do not want to control others. See shortcomings as a part of being human. Express warmth and sincerity. Equitable view of all humans and comfortable without a social ranking system in place. Share feelings from their own experience in mutually respectful ways. Deep listeners, meaning focused, able to attune to self and others. Integrate new information with acceptance even if it is uncomfortable. The facts do not change because you experience intense feelings. Can self-correct and grow, owning and learning from mistakes. Sense of self strong enough to self-regulate emotional safety. Open to changing their minds when new information comes to light. Enjoy learning even if it contradicts what they already believe. Place people before rules, live in grace, can identify ideology and dogma. Flexibility in thinking patterns. Able to update opinions based on new information. Accept that you feel what you feel. Belief that mistakes are a normal part of life. Able to own mistakes and make sincere repair attempts for healing and growth. See other people's boundaries as healthy and something to respect. Dismiss or scoff at personal growth. Are threatened by Enjoy the journey of personal growth. Awareness they the suggestion they are not perfect. are imperfect and loveable.” -Psychology Today. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/antonio-myers4/support