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episode 97: #SurvivorStories Series with "Carol" on parenting with an abuser during COVID-19
On this #SurvivorStories series episode, our guest is "Carol." a protective mom of two young boys. Carol shares with us her struggles as a parent during a pandemic and how her efforts to keep her children safe are compromised by her ex-husband. During our conversation, "Carol" shares with us examples of #abusertactics used by her ex-husband that inhibit her ability to make safe choices for her children and for herself and some #upstandertips on how we, as a society, can use this awareness to do better.
During our conversation, Carol and I referenced the following resources and topics:
- The NYT article by Megan Twohey on how COVID-19 is affecting custody arrangements
- Megan Twohey and Jodi Kantor's book, She Said, on the Harvey Weinstein #MeToo takedown
- Teri's response to Megan's article on Twitter
- How coercive control manifests in family court decisions for survivors and their children
- The Queens mom, Jessica Chan, who sent her kids to her parents so they could be safe while she worked on the frontlines
- The recent Wisconsin primary election and the latest challenge to the Supreme Court's decision about absentee ballots
- Voter disenfranchisement as "coercive control"
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