Hi! My name is Radiant Rebecca. I'm a polyamorous woman (aka an ethical slut), a courtesan, and a tango dancer. I love to make people blush. Especially if it makes them think! This podcast is about love. And my love life. And my … um, sex life. In each episode, you will hear me in rich, intimate, brainy conversations with my partners, lovers, and curious friends. We will share with you, often in real-time, how we navigate relationship transitions and jealousy, fighting nicely, practice partnership, communicate consciously about sex, money, and more. Expect big chunks of useful information and science geekery, a lot of inspiration, and a dash of magic on top… and of course, lots of talk about pleasure and its manifestations! I believe that TRUE pleasure improves us, and I aim to follow true pleasure wherever it leads. I'm not always right. But I'm always enjoying myself! Care to join me?
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episode 32: Tanuki and Rebecca - Hosting Sex Parties, a High Price of Admission & Models of Consent
Tanuki is one of Rebecca’s poly friends who has had a big impact on her lifestyle. We talk about the Protocol kink, our poly lives co-mingling, the sex party at her house where I met my lover, Nuru adult slip’n slide, things I’ve learned from Tanuki, and also about her life as a (married and poly) sex worker, including learning about models of consent and what a "high price of admission" looks like …
SHOW NOTES:
Introduction
3:50 - About Tanuki’s wedding
6:34 - Tanuki having a “high price of admission”, a Dan Savage-ism
8:50 - “Why do we keep having babies with the men we want to spend time with?” - Rebecca, quoting Tanuki
11:50 - “What would you say that you have learned from the Kink world that you can put into use in your everyday life?” - Rebecca
13:13 - “I didn’t think I was kinky!” - Tanuki
19:23 - Barbara Walter’s talking about doing the Bunny Dip (Watch Barbara Walters! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XqBBsN8jxi0)
21:00 - Rules for sex parties, what it takes to through a party and what inspires you to do that kind of thing? -Rebecca
31:15 - “She thinks my research are hot!” -Tanuki
34:04 - “What do you wish people knew about sex?” - Rebecca
35:38 - “it’s OK if what you are doing to my pussy is about your pleasure!” - Tanuki
37:05 - “Rebecca was the first woman I ever made cum. But, I didn’t MAKE her cum, it’s totally a team sport!” - Tanuki
37:50 - “‘Making’ somebody cum is not accurate. More accurate would be “I received Tanuki in a way that I could explosively orgasm.” - Rebecca
41:13 - strategies for how to communicate more clearly when someone isn’t hearing you…
“If your lover is not hearing you, the most important thing is to not silence yourself!” - Tanuki
43:36 - “Any advice for men about how to play in that situation where there is a “No, but…”” - Rebecca
44:44 models of consent
51:21 - another Dan Savage-ism, it’s a super power! if discussing something frankly drives someone away, then you have just saved yourself a bunch of time!