Hi! My name is Radiant Rebecca. I'm a polyamorous woman (aka an ethical slut), a courtesan, and a tango dancer. I love to make people blush. Especially if it makes them think! This podcast is about love. And my love life. And my … um, sex life. In each episode, you will hear me in rich, intimate, brainy conversations with my partners, lovers, and curious friends. We will share with you, often in real-time, how we navigate relationship transitions and jealousy, fighting nicely, practice partnership, communicate consciously about sex, money, and more. Expect big chunks of useful information and science geekery, a lot of inspiration, and a dash of magic on top… and of course, lots of talk about pleasure and its manifestations! I believe that TRUE pleasure improves us, and I aim to follow true pleasure wherever it leads. I'm not always right. But I'm always enjoying myself! Care to join me?
https://pleasurecentralradio.com/
Having your cake AND be safe during sex?
LISTEN TO THIS EPISODE WITH HEADPHONES IF POSSIBLE
Sound is pretty hard to hear, one of our first episodes when we were still playing with recording equipment and spaces.
Show Notes
3:48 Bareback sex (without condoms)
4:55 “You’ll fuck more, guys, if you learn how to enjoy fucking with a condom.”
—Masturbate with a condom on!
5:27 How fucking with a condom can be helpful
5:50 Biochemical bonding with bareback sex is different? More powerful?
7:08 On being an Ethical Slut
8:07 Types of fluid bonding and its effect
8:52 Saran Wrap or dental dams?
— get the non-porous, non-microwavable Saran Wrap!
“Generally speaking, I’m not microwaving my partner’s pussy while I’m eating it, so…”
10:25 How did the desire to have bareback sex come up?
12:27 My ticking ovary clock… ?
13:17 What tells me that it’s my biological clock?
14:18 “Fucking pregnant women is pretty hot.”
14:20 Are pregnant women horny?
—For women that allow themselves to be aware of what is going on in their body during pregnancy, it can be a very pleasant and arousing experience.
16:31 “Nine months of being a walking orgasm would maybe want to make you want to do it again, and again!”
17:07 The orgasmic birth movement
18:07 Fisting & large insertable
19:14 Using fisting to prepare someone for birth
19:56 Internal massage for women - Pelvic Floor Physical Therapists
20:30 Certified Sexological Bodyworkers can also provide internal massage
22:13 Helping lower back pain with internal massage, especially for men.
23:07 Improve hemorrhoids by playing with your own asshole for pleasure
Anal Pleasure & Health - Seminal book by…
24:30 Sex without condoms & Safety
—Fluids on mucosal skin or highly elastic is the highest risk
26:17 “Topical foliage…”
27:37 Breaking the skin on healthy skin is not necessarily better than wiping with alcohol first
28:33 Risks of pregnancy with bareback sex
29:28 Being penetrated is actually one of the more risky things that humans can do
30:00 Women have been dying from childbirth for millions of years. It’s new that we have gotten a pretty good hold on that
31:06 She said “It was like a switch for me. I went in becoming pregnant and having this baby, I went from being a carefree young woman who really was basically up for anything and willing to fuck at the drop of a hat, having great sex with lots of people and doing all the things I wanted to do… but something about this pregnancy and having this child was like flipping a switch.”
33:40 pH changes in a pussy
34:00 Find the type of condoms and lube that work for you!
Will likes:
—Maximus - gel style, great for anal sex
—Liquid Silk (less sugars, but a tiny bit of silicone, which irritates some women)
—Aqua lube
—Kimono condoms - thin, great sensitivity. (These condoms are better for average to smaller guys)
—Crown condoms - pink color
—Skyn, a great latex alternative condom
Rebecca likes:
—Sliquid brand lube, paraben-free, glycerine-free, etc.
—Kimono & Skyn condoms also
—Female condoms
37:30 Condoms & flavors?
39:30 Female condoms - tips
—Put lube on the inside AND the outside of a female condom before you use it
41:37 If you are fucking a lot with condoms, Will would recommend using a non-latex brand. Developing a latex allergy to the awesome thing that covers your cock would be annoying!
42:50 Putting on a Trojan condom is like putting on a tire! (Super thick, neither of us recommend them!)
43:19 Why the US only has 6 or so sizes of condoms available…
And what to do if you want a better fitting condom:
https://www.theyfit.co.uk/
44:47 The better fit you have with your condoms, the more you will be able to enjoy the experience.
—Put a little lube inside the condom (just a small drop, too much could make it slide off)
45:55 So Rebecca, where does this pregnancy desire take you and your own polycules?
49:56 Passing on my recessive hazel eye genes!
52:00 Component of power play and ownership in my pregnancy fantasies
52:50 “The more in control of the rest of my life I feel, the more out of control I want to be in the bedroom.”