Note: This is an OG episode of BFTB. For some of my older episodes, I’ve decided to archive them and make them available only for Premium Submarines. Enjoy this throwback episode.Original episode description: If you identify with the symptoms of borderline personality disorder (also known as BPD or EUPD), it’s likely you’ve heard of “splitting.” Splitting is a defense mechanism that causes a person to view something or someone in ‘black and white’ terms (i.e., “all good” or “all bad.) This episode is part one in a three-part deep dive series on BPD splitting behaviors. If you identify with BPD, it’s likely you’re not conscious of when you’re splitting or why it happens. This can be a very painful and isolating experience. By listening to this series, you'll finally become aware of these self-sabotaging patterns and become better connected to yourself and those around you...
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episode 3: 3. Splitting in Borderline Personality Disorder (PART 3)
This part three in a deep-dive on splitting. If you haven't already, go back to episodes 1 and 2 and check those out first!
To split something means to divide it. “Splitting” is often considered a hallmark of BPD / EUPD. It is characterized by the propensity to completely idealize or devalue other people, places, ideas, or objects. To see them as all good or all bad. Splitting causes those of us with borderline personality disorder to view life, ourselves, and others in extremes. Black and white thinking, no gray areas.
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Below are the topics covered on this episode:
- 01: 40 | Intro – what you’ll learn in this episode
- 03:07 | Recap of what we’ve learned so far about splitting
- 03:36 | When does Splitting become pathological? The “Dark Passenger” takeover
- 07:53 | How long does splitting last?
- 10:38 | BPD and my victim-mentality: splitting the villains of my life story
- 12:00 | Splitting, identity confusion and diffuse boundaries
- 13:20 | What triggers a BPD splitting episode?
- 14:20 | Why we should never try to shame ourselves out of Splitting
- 17:53 | How does Splitting in BPD destroy relationships and intimacy?
- 21:00 | The day I decided my Splitting wouldn’t control my life
- 22:22 | How Splitting can prevent us from making breakthroughs in therapy
- 23:35 | Finding the right therapist (if you’re privileged enough to have a choice or access to health care)
- 25:00 | How to reduce splitting behaviors in BPD using inner child work, self-soothing, grounding, and reparenting exercises
- 31:00 | How can our loved ones help us when we’re in a BPD splitting episode?
- 34:00 | Having PATIENCE with ourselves while we work on splitting
- 37:00 | Closing meditation: finding your “touch tree” (words by Glennon Doyle)
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