Note: This is an OG episode of BFTB. For some of my older episodes, I’ve decided to archive them and make them available only for Premium Submarines. Enjoy this throwback episode.Original episode description: If you identify with the symptoms of borderline personality disorder (also known as BPD or EUPD), it’s likely you’ve heard of “splitting.” Splitting is a defense mechanism that causes a person to view something or someone in ‘black and white’ terms (i.e., “all good” or “all bad.) This episode is part one in a three-part deep dive series on BPD splitting behaviors. If you identify with BPD, it’s likely you’re not conscious of when you’re splitting or why it happens. This can be a very painful and isolating experience. By listening to this series, you'll finally become aware of these self-sabotaging patterns and become better connected to yourself and those around you...
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episode 10: 10. Learning to Love Ourselves Through BPD Identity Issues (ft. Mel)
Do you want to learn how to cultivate self-love while navigating negative thoughts, age regression, sexual repulsion and social anxiety? This is your episode.
I connected with Mel through Instagram. I was struck by how she used her large social media platform to spread a positive and hopeful message about BPD recovery and knew I had to have her on the podcast. After being diagnosed with borderline personality disorder ten years ago, Mel is currently pursuing a degree that will allow her to practice as a therapist and open a center for others suffering from BPD. The conversation you'll hear in this episode was the first time we've ever met. By the end of our talk, I knew I'd found a lifelong friend. I'm honored to be able to share this discussion with each of you.
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Below is a breakdown of the subjects Mel and I cover on this episode:
• DBT (dialectical behavior therapy) and the concepts of "willful versus willingness"
• Feedback loops that keep us stuck
• Understanding the spectrum of borderline personality disorder (high-functioning vs low functioning)
• How meditation can be scary when we first try it
• Talking to our "BPD monsters" and battling negative self talk
• Sexual repulsion, aversion, and hyper-sexuality in individuals with borderline personality disorder
• Age regression and BPD
• Identity disturbance issues with BPD
• Developing TRUE self-love and self-compassion and what that means for recovery
• Discussing the movie "The Joker" - becoming a victim/statistic of the mental health system
• When to tell people in your life that you have BPD
• Navigating BPD and extreme social anxiety
• Creating an individualized approach to BPD recovery
• "Cleaning the BPD wound" - how to attack the underlying issues that prevent us from seeing progress in recovery
Links to resources mentioned in today's episode:
Book | "I Hate You, Don't Leave Me" by Jerold J. Kreisman & Hal Straus
Book | "Unf*ck Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and into Your Life" by Gary Bishop John
Book | "Loving What Is: The Four Questions That Can Change Your Life" by Byron Katie
TedTalk | "The Power of Vulnerability" by Brene Brown
Book | "Building a Life Worth Living: A Memoir" by Marsha Linehan
Connect with Melanie:
Mel's IG | @mindovermelanie
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