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"3 myths about erotica

There are a number of misconceptions surrounding erotica. Some of these myths are the result of sex-negative groups that aim to shame and control women. Others are simply based on stereotypes and misinformation. Let’s look at the biggest and most common three.

Myth 1: Women like erotica more than men

It’s a huge stereotype that men prefer visual images of sex (pornography), while women prefer reading “bodice-rippers” because of their quieter, more cerebral sex drive. Most studies have shown that men are equally turned on by the written word as women, and that women consume more visual pornography than you may think. And way back in 1966, Masters and Johnson found that the general physiology of sexual arousal in men and women is pretty much the same.

Myth 2: Erotica hurts relationships

Some groups like to warn that erotica causes partners to escape to a fantasyland that spoils any hope that they can get aroused by their run-of-the-mill partner in their run-of-the-mill bed.

But studies have shown that reading erotica makes you more likely to get between the sheets with your partner or pleasure yourself in the 24 hours after you read it. Plus, the first study we mentioned above suggests that erotica can significantly increase the overall sex drive and sexual pleasure of a woman reading it.

Myth 3: Readers will want to act out their favorite far-out erotic stories

Newcomers to erotica may worry that they’re turned on by the BDSM depicted in “Fifty Shades of Grey” or by a homosexual relationship when they’ve never felt same-sex attraction. But Linda Garnets, PhD, a researcher at the University of California at Los Angeles, can put your concerns to rest. She says our erotic personalities are as unique as our fingerprints, and that our sexual identities, sexual attractions, and sexual fantasies don’t all have to fit together seamlessly (and they also likely change over time).

For example, it’s perfectly normal to be turned on by a steamy same-sex scene even if you don’t identify as gay, or by any fantasy you can think of. That certainly solves the mystery of why some of the most popular erotica plots don’t end up being expressed in real life — they’re simply hot to read about and think about, nothing more.

Of course, erotica may also give you ideas for fun, new things to try in the bedroom, from new positions to role-playing."

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