"The Don’ts…
If you’re having one night stands to…
– Put a bandage on the cancer of your loneliness and insecurities.
– Emotionally cut in the name of reaffirming a self-fulfilling prophecy that you aren’t worth a real relationship.
– Carry out an experiment to see if you’re so good that you can hook the other person into wanting more (whether that’s more sex, a relationship, whatever it may be).
– Seek validation, attention, love, or approval.
– Fill a void because you don’t know how to be alone. You are desperate for true love but are always in a limerent state. You crave intimacy but feel like you don’t have the social skills or confidence for anything more than physical intimacy.
– Feed an addiction. For some people, one night stands are a full-blown addiction. Because you feel so worthless and unloved, you become addicted to feeling wanted, special, and loved for a night.