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Rebecca talks with Wendy, a sex, dating and relationship expert, about our partner’s ‘have to haves’. In other words, what do you truly need in a relationship? On the other hand, what do you need to avoid? Using Wendy’s Partner Have-to-Haves worksheet as a basis, Rebecca and Wendy discuss what they look for in relationships and how to identify if someone is right for you.

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Wendy Newman is a media-celebrated author and a dating, sex and relationship expert who’s led hundreds of workshops and revolutionized the lives of over 70,000+ women internationally. She guides women to understand men, dating, sex, and partnership of all kinds. She celebrates those emboldened to live their truth and is an advocate for LGBTQ rights, open relationships and alternative lifestyles.

Committed to communication and to people being heard and understood, Wendy pursued her higher education at Vista College in Berkeley with a certificate in American Sign Language and Deaf Culture Studies.

You can find Wendy’s articles, features, interviews and expert advice on her website. She also gets featured in publications like: The Wall Street Journal, U.S. News, Washington Post, The Daily Telegraph (Australia), Meetic (France), Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Redbook, Self, Huffington Post, Men’s Health, Men’s Journal, Elle (Canada) and more.

Think about this:

• What are non-negotiables for you in a relationship? (e.g. you’d be unfulfilled and unhappy without this?)
• Watch out for contradictory traits: for example, you might not be able to get safety and freedom from the same person.
• If sex in a relationship doesn’t fuel you, will the relationship last?
• Do you want to be monogamous or polyamorous?
• What do you do if the person / people you’re dating don’t have most of the partner have-to-haves?
• This is going to move relationships quickly in either the right or wrong direction:
  • What am I dying to provide?
  • What are they dying to receive?
  • What are they trying to provide and am I dying to receive?
• If you’re being used up in the way you really want to be in a relationship, it makes the little things that go wrong easier to work out.
• Are you molding yourself into what you think your partner needs?

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Listen to Episode 090 with Wendy Newman on how to say 'I'm sorry' with an open and graceful heart.

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CREDITS

Thanks for listening to Pleasure Central Radio, hosted by Rebecca Beltran. The co-host for this episode is Shawn.

The guest today was Wendy Newman. Wendy has been on the show many times in the last few years. If you’d like to hear all the episodes with Wendy (including the one about the Full Moon Partnership Ritual), check out the Playlist on PleasureCentralRadio.com or search your podcast player for all episodes with the guest Wendy Newman).

Technical production by Catharina Joubert (Creators Abroad) with advice from our podcast consultant Sandy Waters.

Rebecca gets significant creative feedback from her Beta listeners group. For this episode, special thanks goes to Chet, Sara, Josh and Bob. And to anyone else we might have missed, you are loved.

Rebecca looks forward to your company on the next episode!

PHOTO CREDIT for show’s main artwork to JodyRaePhotography.com

RESOURCES

Access Wendy’s Partner Have-to-Haves DIY workshop