Note: This is an OG episode of BFTB. For some of my older episodes, I’ve decided to archive them and make them available only for Premium Submarines. Enjoy this throwback episode.Original episode description: If you identify with the symptoms of borderline personality disorder (also known as BPD or EUPD), it’s likely you’ve heard of “splitting.” Splitting is a defense mechanism that causes a person to view something or someone in ‘black and white’ terms (i.e., “all good” or “all bad.) This episode is part one in a three-part deep dive series on BPD splitting behaviors. If you identify with BPD, it’s likely you’re not conscious of when you’re splitting or why it happens. This can be a very painful and isolating experience. By listening to this series, you'll finally become aware of these self-sabotaging patterns and become better connected to yourself and those around you...
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reclaiming your sexual agency after chronic objectification with dr. alexandra solomon
On this episode of the podcast, I sat down with licensed clinical psychologist, professor, speaker, author and retreat leader Dr. Alexandra Solomon to discuss how we can rediscover what a connection to the erotic looks like for ourselves and how to become more deeply grounded in pleasure - with or without a partner.
THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF YOU HAVE EVER:
■ Felt so disconnected from your erotic nature that you’ve wondered if maybe you were asexual?
■ Spent much of your life feeling like you’ve performed sexuality rather than actually enjoying sex for yourself?
■Wanted to rip your own fingernails off when you see spiritual gurus on Instagram claiming to help you reconnect with your “divine feminine energy” if only you’d just drop $4k for their “healing course”?
■ Consistently faked orgasms to make sure your partner feels satisfied, while completely neglecting your own needs, leaving you feeling resentful of sex or dreading it as some kind of forced chore?
IN THE FULL EPISODE, WE ALSO EXPLORE:
■ The feeling of having a “sexual blockage”
■ The experience of dissociating during sex
■ Feeling like we have to “perform” sexually to land a partner
■ Dr. Solomon’s view on what I call “the OnlyFans phenomenon” and “sex as self-harm”
■ The impact hard-core porn on sites like PornHub is having on intimacy and how this is enforcing “problematic gendered scripts”
RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Book | Reclaiming Pleasure by Holly Richmond
Book | Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski
Podcast | Pleasure Mechanics
CONNECT WITH ALEXANDRA:
https://dralexandrasolomon.com/
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Disclaimer: The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional.
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