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"1. They understand what normal really means.

The definition of “normal” is typical or average. We can all agree on that, yeah? So you probably won’t be surprised when I tell you that a “normal” sex life is awkward. And that most people are self-conscious and critical of their bodies.

Or that the average person doesn’t feel sexually confident. They worry about performance and whether they are doing it right. Sometimes they are too shy to ask for what they want.

A normal sex life includes health problems and emotional exhaustion. Sex often happens between two tired bodies who focus on work far more than they should. They are easily distracted and regard sex as an extracurricular activity, rather than a necessity.

Sexually intelligent people get that, and they rally against having a “normal” sex life. But they are also don’t mind fuck themselves with romanticized ideas about what sex should look like. They don’t expect the mood and the ambiance to be perfect. They understand that the ever-changing landscape of the human body includes unwellness.

They don’t wait for the right time. They accept that good sex may or may not include orgasm. And here’s a biggie, they don’t assume that all sexual activity will lead to intercourse.

Sexual intellects understand that sex is more than PIV. And they don’t let the absence of erection or slow arousal response define the totality of the experience.

They measure sexual success by whether pleasure is experienced or not. That’s it, that’s all.

2. They know that the whole body is erogenous.

The human nervous system is the superhighway of sensation. Every square inch of your body is wired to feel. It was previously thought that sexual stimulation was limited to the mouth, nipples, genitalia, and anus — with the neck, butt, and thighs added for good measure.

But while those areas may be concentrated hot spots, there is no place on your body that is not capable of instigating sexual arousal. Naturally, results vary from person to person.

Some parts of the body may be less responsive when you’re feeling angry or sad. Mood, environment, and circumstances affect the potential and duration of arousal. But the fact remains that your whole body is an erogenous zone. And sexually intelligent people recognize this fact.

Acknowledging the erotic potential of the human body map encourages experimentation. It creates opportunities to explore with less emphasis on orgasm and more focus on pleasure.

All body parts are sexual organs. Eyebrows and elbows. Knees and toes. Shoulders and flanks. Nailbeds and heels. I once became aroused by the beat of someone else’s heart! So when I tell you that opening your mind will increase the sum of your pleasure — I mean it!"

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