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episode 75: My libido types
"Sandra Pertot, an Australian sex therapist and clinical psychologist, and author of When Your Sex Drives Don’t Match, developed the concept of 10 libido types. Do you see yourself in one – or more – of them?
SensualSnapshot: You find emotional intimacy more important during sex than physical performance.
Libido meaning: Sex connects you emotionally with your partner. It is the physical expression of your relationship.
Advice: If your partner turns you down, you may feel rejected. Ask your partner to say no more gently. (Here’s when to worry about a sexless marriage.)
Snapshot: You need sex to feel loved and reassured, or to deal with stress.
Libido meaning: You learned in adolescence to use sex and masturbation to deal with boredom or frustration.
Advice: Look for positive, non-sexual ways to cope with negative feelings.
Snapshot: You feel desire, but avoid sex because you’re worried you can’t please your partner.
Libido meaning: Your self-doubt may stem from a difficult time, such as illness, when sex was not a priority.
Advice: Talk to your partner (and maybe a counsellor) about expectations when it comes to sex.
Snapshot: You’re not worried about whether you have sex; it’s easier to satisfy sexual needs with masturbation.
Libido meaning: You’re distracted by other demands in your life such as work.
Advice: Discuss ways to deal with life pressures, and build intimacy through non-sexual “couple time.” (These are the early signs your relationship won’t last.)
Snapshot: You feel an emotional closeness only with someone who is sexually passionate.
Libido meaning: To you, sex is the most important part of a relationship, and you need to feel hotly desired.
Advice: Have fun, but also pay attention to your partner’s needs (which may include plain old vanilla sex but it doesn’t have to be boring!).
Snapshot: Your find it difficult to resist sex with other partners despite being in a relationship.
Libido meaning: You are likely using sex to bolster low self-esteem or to enhance high self-esteem.
Advice: Counselling is a must."