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“Getting in the Mood Getting in the mood is often both a physical and mental process for people. Not everybody is interested or ready for sex (any kind of sex) just because someone’s partner runs into a room and is like “Hey! Let’s have sex!” And so sometimes it takes specific activities to get people horny. There are no rules to which of these activities do or do not count as foreplay; whatever gets you in the mood is foreplay for you! So what kinds of things can people do to get in the mood? What activities or behaviours are good foreplay? These are good questions to ask yourself and your partners, but here are some ideas: Getting Comfortable Set the Scene: Flowers. Candles. A Sexy playlist. Sometimes cliches are actually great for making a moment feel more sensual! Other things to consider: Are the curtains closed? Did you brush your teeth? All of these things can contribute to the vibe of the space, which can affect how comfortable a person feels being intimate or vulnerable. Get in the Zone: What do you need to do to feel ready and comfortable for sex? Some people like to take a bath or shower. Some people need a moment to themselves to decompress from a busy day. Try and figure out what helps you relax and focus on the sensations and activities you’re doing with your partner(s) in the moment. Practicing Safer Sex: It can be difficult to feel comfortable during sex if you’re constantly stressing about getting pregnant or getting an STI. Using condoms, dental dams, or birth control can help put someone’s mind at ease and focus on the matter at hand (aka sex). For condoms specifically, it can help to incorporate them into your foreplay; try keeping them near where you have sex, or give yourself time to roll around after you put the condom on/in before any penetration. Just because a condom’s out of its package, doesn’t mean there’s a need to start rushing things. Touching and More Kissing: Foreplay doesn’t need to be elaborate or fancy. Some people just need a good amount of kissing to get in the mood. Consider making time for longer makeouts. You can also talk to your partner if it feels good to kiss places other than their mouths (like necks, ears, toes, bellies, etc.). Massages: A massage can help relieve tension, as well as help partners feel more physically intimate. You don’t have to be an expert masseuse to rub someone’s shoulders or back or whatever it is that helps get them in the mood. There are also lots of body oils that people use to enhance the experience. Oral Sex and Masturbation: While oral sex and and mutual masturbation are wonderful activities by themselves, lots of people engage in them as warm-up to things like penetrative sex. If this is the case for you, spend lots of time on oral sex or masturbation! Edging your partner (or yourself) in this way can help a lot in getting people in the mood, which can lead to things like greater vaginal lubrication or more confident erections. Engage the 5 Senses: Foreplay doesn’t just have to be about touching. It can also be about tastes, smells, sights, and sounds. Think about incorporating things like massages, chocolate, candles, mood music, etc. These examples may be a bit cheesy, but finding the sensations that work for you and your partner(s) can also help get everyone in the mood.” --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/antonio-myers4/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/antonio-myers4/support