On Sex, Love, and Addiction, Dr. Rob Weiss, sex therapist and author of a dozen books on sex and relationship healing, interviews global experts like Dr’s. Sue Johnson, Harville Hendrix, Dr. Stan Tatkin, and Helen Fisher, Dr. Kenneth Adams among others. This podcast features robust discussions focused on healing from chronic infidelity, cheating, porn, and sex addiction, along with the pain of relationship betrayal. Dr. Rob is Chief Clinical Officer for Seeking integrity Treatment Centers. He is a 30-year licensed therapist, a Ph.D. sexologist, and author Sex Addiction 101, Prodependence, and Out of the Doghouse, among other books. This podcast is dedicated to bringing information, advice, and direction from experts around the world to those seeking answers to some of life’s most challenging questions.
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episode 98: BONUS: Q&A with Rob & Tami - My Addict’s Therapist Blames Me for His Wrong Doings!
Rob and Tami explain in depth what a betrayed spouse is going through during the first year and a half after a reveal, and what a person in recovery can do about it. They also answer listener questions about porn addiction since the age of 10, and what to do when a CSAT therapist sides with the addict and not with the betrayed spouse.
TAKEAWAYS:
[0:25] My wife hates me. When will it stop?
[2:25] Dr. Rob explains why it’s important for betrayed spouses to find a place to vent outside of your home with the addict.
[4:25] He’s just not getting it! Will I ever get empathy from my addict?
[8:00] I have been a compulsive user of sexual fantasy since I was 10. I’m struggling. How do I become normal again?
[13:15] As a betrayed spouse, I’m seeing red flags with my husband’s current therapist. The therapist blames me!
[15:40] Not all therapists are good therapists. You do get a mixed bag and it can be a journey to find the right one.
[18:45] My addict broke my boundaries. What do I do?
[25:35] At Seeking Integrity, Dr. Rob and his team turn boys into men.
[27:35] Is there something wrong with me that I want to be intimate with my untrustworthy addict?
RESOURCES:
Seekingintegrity.com
Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com
Sexandrelationshiphealing.com
Intherooms.com
Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating Book by Robert Weiss
Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency Book by Robert Weiss
Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction by Robert Weiss
Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating Book by Robert Weiss
Cruise Control Book by Robert Weiss
QUOTES
- “After a year and a half, I will say to betrayed spouses that, at a certain point, your anger can be unproductive.”
- “I think it’s important for every betrayed spouse to have a place to go where they can vent because addicts need some space from you in order to grow, even though we deserve [the anger]!”
- “Stopping the bad behavior I can do in a month or two, but becoming a good person can take a long time. A lot of therapy.”
- “Stopping the behavior is critically important, but also address the underlying issues. There’s a reason we use these addictions as an escape.”