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"The answer to this is more complicated than it would seem. Real-life couples know what they want in bed, they’re already hot for each other, and you can often see the shared intimacy and connection that they have. They like each other and want to be there. That chemistry is what I’m after when I work with a real-life couple and I think I’ve done a good job of capturing it. We often focus on people’s faces because I want to see the interactions they have while having sex. That, to me, is far more interesting than any of the mechanics of sex (although we like to show that too, of course). I have been a fan of erotic content made for women since I bought my first copy of Australian Women’s Forum in 1994. It had male centerfolds and erotic fiction. I became a freelance journalist for that magazine in 1998. When I started making adult websites in 2000, it seemed a natural extension to make adult content that catered to women. I like adult entertainment, but I never liked the sexism of it or the way it always gave priority to the male viewer. My goal from the beginning was to offer a female perspective and make adult content for women like myself. That expanded into ForTheGirls.com in 2003 and then making films in 2009 followed by the launch of BrightDesire.com in 2012.

There’s a lot of discussion in feminist adult entertainment circles about what’s “authentic” in adult content and how the term is used as a “genre” in some ways. If there’s a camera in the room when people are having sex, that fundamentally changes the dynamic. It’s always a performance, even if it’s a real life couple filming themselves with an iPhone. But it’s also real sex and people can be having real orgasms and having a legitimately good time. Ultimately, we try to offer something that is realistic and if our performers also have a good time then that makes it even better. Our work embraces a lot of themes. One is that adult entertainment is a form of media, like anything else. It’s not inherently wrong, or immoral, or sexist or racist. You can capture the act of sex in a way that’s respectful, compelling, and visually interesting. Just because the viewer is aroused doesn’t take away the fact that adult content is an art form like any other. On top of that there’s the idea of ethics. We are making adult content in an ethical way – respecting our workers, paying them properly, treating them well, ensuring safety on set etc. (See our statement of ethics here.) From the beginning, I’ve emphasized respect for our performers, both in how we work with them and how they’re presented on the site. I never use derogatory language to describe them or the sex. I want to honor their work and who they are.

That said, we’ve worked with many real-life couples who were making adult content for the first time, and they’re often nervous about being in front of the camera. They also don’t really know what to expect, they aren’t used to lighting or other technical considerations. This can impact what we capture. We do our best to be unobtrusive and make people feel comfortable so they can relax and just do what they’d normally do, but sometimes that means it’s not perfect. We’ve also shot with people who have never met before or professionals who have said they’d like to work with a particular person but they’ve never had sex with each other. Those scenes can have their own special chemistry and magic. The thrill of the first time can be wonderful to see. The scene we did with Jiz Lee and Bishop Black is absolutely adorable and they’d never had sex before, although they were previously acquainted. The scene went for hours because they were so into each other they wouldn’t stop. And professionals are often easier for us to shoot because they are more comfortable being filmed so they’re better able to just focus on having fun."

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