Sex, Love, and Addiction

Dr. Rob breaks down what goes on in a man's and a woman's mind when they cheat and their partner finds out about the affair. In a continuation of last week’s episode, Dr. Rob shares whether it’s possible to recover from infidelity, whether a partner should stay in a relationship with an addict, and how you restore trust again in a relationship after cheating. 

TAKEAWAYS:

[1:50] Codependency doesn’t actually exist. Dr. Rob explains why. 

[3:10] When your partner is snooping through your stuff. They’re look for reasons to stay with you! 

[7:35] Can couples recover from infidelity? 

[14:25] Every partner feels like it’s their fault for not being able to keep their cheating partner in the home. 

[14:55] So many people will say, ‘if only you had more sex with them, they wouldn’t cheat.’ That’s a lie! Spouses are shamed on and they have very little support. 

[17:20] Crazy is your new normal! 

[22:25] Your spouse has lost their best friend. 

[23:15] Should a betrayed spouse stay or should they go? 

[31:05] What is disclosure? 

[41:10] Empathy is how you heal deep relationship wounds with your partner. 

[41:45] How do you restore trust in a relationship? 

RESOURCES:

Sex and Relationship Healing

@RobWeissMSW

Sex Addiction 101 

Seeking Integrity

Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men 

Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency

Out of the Doghouse by Robert Weiss

QUOTES:

• “All your betrayed partner is looking for is reality, is for clarity.”
• “When a partner of 30 years hears that you’ve been cheating for 25 years. It’s not going to go well.”
• “Why would you have sex with a sex addict if you don’t trust them?”
• “The truth is, the more they know, the less it will hurt. What your betrayed spouse wants is honesty!”