On Sex, Love, and Addiction, Dr. Rob Weiss, sex therapist and author of a dozen books on sex and relationship healing, interviews global experts like Dr’s. Sue Johnson, Harville Hendrix, Dr. Stan Tatkin, and Helen Fisher, Dr. Kenneth Adams among others. This podcast features robust discussions focused on healing from chronic infidelity, cheating, porn, and sex addiction, along with the pain of relationship betrayal. Dr. Rob is Chief Clinical Officer for Seeking integrity Treatment Centers. He is a 30-year licensed therapist, a Ph.D. sexologist, and author Sex Addiction 101, Prodependence, and Out of the Doghouse, among other books. This podcast is dedicated to bringing information, advice, and direction from experts around the world to those seeking answers to some of life’s most challenging questions.
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Betrayal, Hurt, and Anger: You Can Let It Go
Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and a Florida State Qualified Supervisor for those seeking a license in Mental Health Counseling or Marriage and Family Therapy. In addition, she is also a Certified Professional Life Coach. Being a Therapist and a Life Coach gives her the unique ability to help clients heal from the past and live their best life today. In this episode, Dr. Crystal discusses what happens when a betrayed partner feels so angry and can’t seem to forgive. Is there ever a way out of this hurt? The answer is yes. Listen in for more.
TAKEAWAYS:
[1:40] A little bit about Dr. Crystal.
[2:50] When someone has been deeply betrayed/hurt, how does anger show up?
[6:00] Anger and pain shows up at different times.
[10:00] Despite all the pain, you have to take responsibility for when you are upset.
[12:50] Dr. Crystal shares her lego principal.
[15:45] What happens in the brain when someone gets better from depression?
[16:55] What is abusive behavior?
[19:50] What happens if you want to let go of your anger but you’re nowhere near forgiveness?
[25:45] You don’t need to let go of the anger, you just need to process it.
[27:45] If you’ve been betrayed, please consider therapy.
[33:10] What do you do if your family members get angry for you?
[37:05] Dr. Crystal likes to use the CBT Therapy method to help her clients through their pain.
[40:45] Does betrayal affect same-sex couples differently?
RESOURCES:
Sex and Relationship Healing
@RobWeissMSW
Sex Addiction 101
Seeking Integrity
Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men
Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency
Out of the Doghouse by Robert Weiss
Crystalhollenbeck.com
QUOTES:
- “It’s normal to be angry, but you can’t hurt yourself for somebody else when you are angry.”
- “Sometimes anger can be very non-productive.”
- “No matter how much you’ve hurt him back, it’s not going to make him understand how much he’s hurt you.”
- “Forgiving doesn’t have to mean forgetting.”