On Sex, Love, and Addiction, Dr. Rob Weiss, sex therapist and author of a dozen books on sex and relationship healing, interviews global experts like Dr’s. Sue Johnson, Harville Hendrix, Dr. Stan Tatkin, and Helen Fisher, Dr. Kenneth Adams among others. This podcast features robust discussions focused on healing from chronic infidelity, cheating, porn, and sex addiction, along with the pain of relationship betrayal. Dr. Rob is Chief Clinical Officer for Seeking integrity Treatment Centers. He is a 30-year licensed therapist, a Ph.D. sexologist, and author Sex Addiction 101, Prodependence, and Out of the Doghouse, among other books. This podcast is dedicated to bringing information, advice, and direction from experts around the world to those seeking answers to some of life’s most challenging questions.
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Part 2: Addiction , Mental Health, and Psychology with the President of the Society of Addiction Psychology. Dr. Aaron Weiner
Dr. Aaron Weiner, Ph.D., ABPP is a board-certified Psychologist and addiction specialist and speaks nationally on the topics of addiction, behavioral health, and the impact of drug policy on public health. In this episode, Dr. Aaron talks about childhood trauma, whether addicts are inherently bad people and the pain that people often hold deep down that they’ve suppressed and compartmentalized.
TAKEAWAYS:
[2:11] Why does relapse even happen? If the addict really loves me, why can’t they just stop?
[3:10] Your betrayed partner is hurt, but they love you and they don’t want to see you in pain.
[5:45] How do you tell a partner that you’ve relapsed or have a slip?
[6:35] Many spouses feel so disconnected from their addict.
[9:15] You may continue with your addiction, but it will never be the same. You will always hurt your family.
[11:00] Are addicts bad people? Are they just going to keep hurting people?
[15:20] Do addictive personalities exist?
[16:40] Childhood trauma disrupts your entire worldview.
[21:35] People often want to know why this is happening, but it’s equally important to understand how it’s happening and how to stop.
[27:00] We are going to get stressed and it’s natural that you want to hide from that stress, but there are better ways to solve that problem.
[30:10] Can you fix addiction?
[32:45] Dr. Aaron offers some helpful workbooks and solutions to help you with your recovery journey.
RESOURCES:
Sex and Relationship Healing
@RobWeissMSW
Sex Addiction 101
Seeking Integrity
Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men
Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency
Out of the Doghouse by Robert Weiss
Weinerphd.com
Dr. Aaron on LinkedIn
QUOTES:
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“I’m an addict and I don’t want to see it. I don’t want to be reminded of it. Addicts will jump over the problem.”
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“One of the things I see betrayed partner’s looking for is empathy. The addict gets into recovery, but they’re still assholes.”
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“Almost every client that comes to Seeking Integrity wants to know ‘why’. I can show you why, but you really need to learn how to stop.”
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“We are always going to be faced with stressors in our life and we are always going to want to feel better.”