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Lina ponificates on curating kinky community beyond the algorithm, then stands at the crossroads with a listener who wants to go from book learning to street smarts. And finally, some thoughts on overthinking, and the perfectly nice orgasms it chases...

On this month's Deep Dive interview, Brat Whisperer Lola Jean joins me to talk all about how to find your inner brat and, more importantly, negotiate the conditions that will allow (controlled, joyful) chaos to reign. You are a cute puzzle! ...

Today’s episode is all about feeling your feelings. One sub asks whether it’s possible to introduce kink to her partner in a non-sexual context, while another wants to know how to react in a subby way to conflict with their Dom.  Support the...

Cue up some disco and put on your finest assless chaps, we’re taking a walking tour through the heart of leather culture in the 1970’s - San Francisco’s South of Market neighborhood (home of Folsom Street) and the many bars, clubs, and...

A sub wants to know how to bring forward feminine energy and suppress the masculine during aftercare. Lina’s response? Gender is fake, privilege is real, and pegging your Dom is a submissive act. How did we get there? Guess you’ll have to listen....

joined me to tell me all about her dating life as an HSV+ queen, shared her thoughts on disclosure, and gave us some insight into her first date rituals. Spoiler alert: an HSV diagnosis isn't going to end your sex life! In fact... it might make it...

Today we’re tackling the question of how to share kink resources with vanilla people you encounter in your dating travels, strategies for protecting your energy as you do so, and how to hold out hope that you're going to convert seemingly vanilla...

A tour through the literary origins of masochism, as well as some modern mythbusting for the masochistically inclined. . with Luna Matatas all about Diversity in Kink on 4/11 at 5 pacific / 8 eastern. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a...

A sub wants to know how to communicate their changing needs in a longterm relationship, and Lina equips them with proactive, active, and reactive tools for sharing feedback and keeping the D/s container safe (but also spicy). To support the pod and...

Join me and Luna Matatas for a discussion all about cultivating body confidence in a messed up world!  Get the rest of my interview with Luna .  Find Luna online . at $11/month to get the complete interview , as well as access to the...