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A new sub wants to know how to manage jealousy when you're monogamous and your partner isn't. Aka, where is your place in the kink community if not at the so-called "cool kid's table?" Well, it's right here next to me. Get instructions for submitting...

Today we’re reclaiming our erotic power and studying a holy trinity of queer feminist writers: Adrienne Rich, Audre Lorde, and Gloria Anzaldúa.  Join our free & public community discussion . To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub...

This week we’re naming and confronting the pessimism that makes us think all potential sex partners are trash, then discussing what good, real Doms are actually like! They’re out there! | To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub...

Hear all about the varied kink lives of our ask a sub community! From single folks to people married with kids, kink is a living, breathing practice that meets us where we are and infuses our lives with choice, meaning, and joy.  at $11/month to...

A Dom calls in wondering how to navigate his sub’s dynamic with another Dom, and Lina talks about primary partner veto, as well as the ins and outs of navigating side-by-side dynamics. (Our deepest apologies for the title of this episode, we...

A bi-for-bi open marriage, crossdressing, and a series of passionate artistic love affairs — no, it’s not 2023, it’s 1923! On this month’s pride minisode I’m bringing you the story of bisexual it girl Vita Sackville-West, and the letters...

Sometimes it can be hard for us bi girls to name what we want and go after it, and this week Lina is unpacking all the varying forces that go into this common quandary.  To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket...

Zachary Zane, author of stopped by to talk about bisexual sluttiness, rejecting bi assimilationism, and his hairy butthole. We had a ton of fun breaking down bi stereotypes and bringing some bi chaos to pride month. at $11/month to get the complete...

Lina comforts a listener who’s seeking insight into the parallels between bi+ and non-monogamous identities. Lina also takes a second to address the difference between “unicorn hunters” and bi+ people looking to have a nice time. To support the...

Trying to keep your kink gendy-neutch? Means of address can go a long way in creating that euphoric safe space for you. This week we’re bringing you some Pride aftercare in the form of means of address inspiration. To support the pod and join our...