Think It Be It

In this episode John and Kelly talk about the stories we tell ourselves impact our behaviors. These stories are always playing in the background in the subconscious mind. And they drive our behaviors as well as our fears. Oftentimes we need to take a hard look at these stories and see if they are serving us. Often they are not. So you need to go back and look at what actually happened in each story and then may be reinterpret the Takeaway...

In this episode John and Kelly discuss the importance of being able to succinctly articulate how you create success in your life. John tells the story of talking to a group of entrepreneurs. He asked a number them how they create success in their life. None had a clear and cogent answer. John suggests maybe that’s the problem...

In this episode John talked about how to have a great marriage. The Einstein of marriage in the United States is John and Julie Gottman. Based on their extensive research, they truly are the top in their field of marriage and relationships. Based on their research, we all have unconscious tripwires from childhood wounds. It is critical that you know your spouse’s childhood wounds as well as your own. When you understand these, your relationship goes to a deeper level...

In this episode John and Kelly discuss the impact of aging. And there’s lots of good things about getting older. John says that one thing he’s learned from aging is that most things don’t matter. But some things matter a lot. Things that don’t matter is what other people think. What does matter is his relationship with his wife and his close friends. Being clear on his values and living them daily. Impacting his daily mindset. And savoring his precious life with intentionality to do that...

In this episode, John and Kelly talk about how a person’s inner world determines their outer world. This topic was inspired by John listening to Tony Robbins on the impact theory podcast. In this episode John mentions that you live up or down to your identity. Most people create their identity by default. And one’s identity is determined by the stories you tell yourself. Kelly mentions that this is so closely aligned to what think it be it is all about...

In this episode John and Kelly discuss the classic book psycho cybernetics. John read this book when he was 19 and it had a huge impact on him. It’s all about self image- written by a plastic surgeon. The biggest thing John got out of this book was how to have a great self-image at the tender age of 19. It also taught him how not to worry. Self-esteem is key to happiness. The central concept of the book is you create a mental image in your mind of what you want...

In this episode, John and Kelly talk about how the human mind works. John recently got back from visiting in person with the mental coach for the USC football team. His name is Tim Kight. He’s probably the top sports psychologist in the country. In his first year at USC he turned them around from four and eight the prior year to 11 and three. John talks about how the human mind works. And said that today there is a bifurcation in society...

In this episode John and Kelly discuss the most important thing the ever learned. That 95% of a person’s daily actions are unconscious. John says that when he appears on podcasts, he mentions this startling fact. But he oftentimes sees that with listeners this profound fact goes in one ear and out the other. John gives a couple of other examples of startling facts that are equally amazing...

In this episode John and Kelly talk about the impact of self talk. John recently got back from visiting in person with the mental coach for the USC football team. His name is Tim Kight. He’s probably the top sports psychologist in the country. In our last episode John explained one of Tim Kight’s concepts. That an event happens, then there’s a four step process. First you focus on the event, or a part of the event. Then self talk is generated. Then emotion is felt...

In this episode John explains that he recently took an extensive course on NLP – neurolinguistic programming. It’s the science and how you say things. And as part of the science, John learned more about the reticular activating system. That’s the filter for the brain. And here’s what’s interesting. At any second, when you are awake you have 2 million bits of information coming at you. 2 million every second. But your brain can only process 116 bits of information per second...