Relationship Unconscious

The "Relationship Unconscious" podcast site focuses on how the mind’s unconscious influences the way we think, feel, and behave in our relationships. Featuring the work of licensed psychologist and psychotherapist James Tobin, Ph.D., the site offers (1) audio presentations on the psychology of relationship dynamics among couples, between parents and children, and in the workplace; (2) webinar events; and (3) recordings of interactive group seminars.

https://jamestobinphd.podbean.com

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episode 110: 13 – What You Elicit


Many approaches to self-improvement and personal change are largely focused on self-understanding, on learning about one’s problematic or limiting beliefs, tendencies, and self-destructive actions.   Although this perspective on the internal, personal fa...


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episode 109: 12 – The Neurobiology of Fate


There is an emerging body of scientific research indicating that the human brain is impacted by social experience in ways we did not realize previously. In the last several decades we learned that the brain is malleable, a discovery that continues to inf...


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episode 102: 11 - Enactment


Enactment is a term used by psychologists and theorists that refers to an experiential or relational dynamic that is created, unwittingly, by unconscious forces. Perhaps the most significant hypothesis put forth by Freud is that a person is doomed to rep...


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episode 102: 10 - Guilt


As a psychotherapist, guilt is one of the most common emotional experiences my patients grapple with. Guilt is commonly viewed as the feeling that emerges when you've done something wrong when you've made a mistake or not acted as you would have hoped or...


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episode 87: 09 - The World One Sees and the Seer Who Sees It


Seeing things as they are in an essential concept in Buddhist philosophy and psychology, as well as Freudian theory.   So much emotional turmoil, what is known as suffering in Buddhism, is due to the tendency to withdraw from and deny the true nature of ...


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 2018-09-19  14m
 
 

episode 13: 08 - Denial and "Mystification"


  Due to our need to bond and early developmental experiences of tolerating the limitations of caregivers, denial is common in adult romantic relationships. But once denial is overcome, an important psychological capacity called "mystification" may evolv...


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 2018-09-05  11m
 
 

episode 12: 07 - The Architecture of a Relationship with a Narcissist in 5 Phases


Narcissistic tendencies are the result of psychological defenses employed early in development when the child's need for empathic reflection and mirroring was frustrated.  Consequently, the adult narcissist relates to significant others in a characterist...


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 2018-09-01  14m
 
 

episode 6: 06 - The Psychological Capacity of "Inflexion"


  "Inflexion" is the psychological capacity necessary to subvert one's unconscious repetition of prior relational injury and trauma in current and future romantic relationships.  It involves the recognition of roles and relational dynamics one consistent...


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 2018-08-29  11m
 
 

episode 5: 05 - Unconscious Relational Templates in the Film "9 1/2 Weeks"


Adrian Lyne's 1986 film "9 1/2 Weeks" depicts the disturbing sadomasochistic relationship between "John" (Mickey Rourke) and "Elizabeth" (Kim Basinger), two characters destined to form a treacherous union.  Elizabeth's unconscious relational template, fo...


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 2018-08-25  12m
 
 

episode 4: 04 - Fatal Attraction: Unconscious Recruitment and Enactment


  Emotional injuries suffered in relationships early in development set up the unconscious motivation to repeat and enact similar experiences of conflict, rejection, and trauma across the lifespan.  Relationships are not "fated" by some spiritual force b...


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 2018-08-22  10m
 
 
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