Relationship Unconscious

The "Relationship Unconscious" podcast site focuses on how the mind’s unconscious influences the way we think, feel, and behave in our relationships. Featuring the work of licensed psychologist and psychotherapist James Tobin, Ph.D., the site offers (1) audio presentations on the psychology of relationship dynamics among couples, between parents and children, and in the workplace; (2) webinar events; and (3) recordings of interactive group seminars.

https://jamestobinphd.podbean.com

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episode 87: 09 - The World One Sees and the Seer Who Sees It


Seeing things as they are in an essential concept in Buddhist philosophy and psychology, as well as Freudian theory.   So much emotional turmoil, what is known as suffering in Buddhism, is due to the tendency to withdraw from and deny the true nature of ...


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 2018-09-19  14m
 
 

episode 13: 08 - Denial and "Mystification"


  Due to our need to bond and early developmental experiences of tolerating the limitations of caregivers, denial is common in adult romantic relationships. But once denial is overcome, an important psychological capacity called "mystification" may evolv...


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 2018-09-05  11m
 
 

episode 12: 07 - The Architecture of a Relationship with a Narcissist in 5 Phases


Narcissistic tendencies are the result of psychological defenses employed early in development when the child's need for empathic reflection and mirroring was frustrated.  Consequently, the adult narcissist relates to significant others in a characterist...


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 2018-09-01  14m
 
 

episode 6: 06 - The Psychological Capacity of "Inflexion"


  "Inflexion" is the psychological capacity necessary to subvert one's unconscious repetition of prior relational injury and trauma in current and future romantic relationships.  It involves the recognition of roles and relational dynamics one consistent...


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 2018-08-29  11m
 
 

episode 5: 05 - Unconscious Relational Templates in the Film "9 1/2 Weeks"


Adrian Lyne's 1986 film "9 1/2 Weeks" depicts the disturbing sadomasochistic relationship between "John" (Mickey Rourke) and "Elizabeth" (Kim Basinger), two characters destined to form a treacherous union.  Elizabeth's unconscious relational template, fo...


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 2018-08-25  12m
 
 

episode 4: 04 - Fatal Attraction: Unconscious Recruitment and Enactment


  Emotional injuries suffered in relationships early in development set up the unconscious motivation to repeat and enact similar experiences of conflict, rejection, and trauma across the lifespan.  Relationships are not "fated" by some spiritual force b...


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 2018-08-22  10m
 
 

episode 3: 03 - The Shared Psychological Origin of Narcissism and Codependent Relational Styles


Narcissistic and codependent relational styles in adulthood originated as unconscious psychological defenses in early development.  If the child's bond with the primary caregiver was characterized by repeated unempathic and non-mirroring responses, the c...


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 2018-08-18  10m
 
 

episode 2: 02 – The "Maternalizing" Dynamic


Under certain conditions, a romantic relationship based on strong sexual and emotional attraction may devolve into unconscious role assignments in which a woman acts in a maternalistic fashion toward her previously competent and autonomous partner.  Each...


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 2018-08-15  12m
 
 

episode 1: 01 - The Distinction between "Attachment" and "Erotic" Love


Many people experience unnecessary struggles in their romantic relationships because they unconsciously rely on primitive bonding strategies ("attachment") rather than on "erotic" forms of relatedness characterized by an uncensored expression of self, fi...


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 2018-08-12  11m
 
 
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