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episode 173: Feel Better Faster: Avoiding Perfectionist Mistakes In Expressing EMOTIONS
Ever wish you could just turn your feelings off? For years I wanted to be a robot bc I sucked at expressing emotions. Now I know what to do with feelings and can easily make space for emotions without drowning in them. Emotions can either propel or paralyze you, here's how to understand and navigate them as a perfectionist.
Listen to the full episode to hear:
- Discover the two main ways society has miseducated us about expressing emotions and the pivotal techniques to unlearn them.
- Two essential questions to ask to get out of the emotional swap + get clear
- The difference between self-compassion, emotional petting, reflection, rumination and more.
- Perfectionist tendencies and how they become unhealthy coping mechanisms
- How Jamal + Veronica took control of their emotions and perfectionism so they co-exist in harmony
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EPSISODE 173 TIMESTAMPS:
00:00-Introduction + Sneak Peak of Topic
01:43-Two Major Misconceptions About Expressing Emotions
02:22-Dismissing Emotions vs Taking Charge of Your Emotions
03:28-Dangers of Black and White Thinking About Emotions
03:42-The Role of Capitalism in Controlling of Emotions
04:06-Differentiating Self Compassion, Reflection, Discipline and Expressing Feelings
04:58-When Perfectionism Becomes An Unhealthy Coping Mechanism
07:04-Why Focusing On Present Rather Than Past Is Where You Find Answers
07:37-Differentiating Between Expressing and Explaining Feelings
08:06-The Pitfalls of Overexpressing and Underexplaining Feelings
09:57-How Providing Context for Emotional Experiences is Key
10:47-The Challenge of Underexpressing and Overexplaining Emotions
12:45-How A Healthy Perfectionist Handles Emotions in a Better Way
13:30-Two Key Questions to Increase Your Emotional Intelligence + Feel Better Faster