An Empowered man is one who communicates like a leader, sets boundaries that gets respect, knows who he is and what he wants...and owns his own sh*t. The Empowered AF podcast is designed to help men do just that in their marriage and life. Join entrepreneur, coach, and father Mark Santiago every week as he shares the secrets to stepping into your own empowerment as a man. Each week you’ll hear about taboo issues that hold back the modern-day man from knowing who he is, what he wants, and how to become the man he wants to be as a father, husband, and leader.
https://marksantiago.captivate.fm
episode 163: Lies Vs. Truths In Divorce
Get the Rules of Engagement For When She’s Cheating, Says She Doesn’t Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcast
Join the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcast
In this episode, Mark and Joey dive deep into the lies men often tell themselves, especially in moments of friction and crisis. They discuss the societal pressure and social status associated with marriage and divorce within certain communities. They emphasize the importance of not using your children as emotional shields and how showing up for them is crucial. They also share personal experiences and insights on building healthier relationships with your kids post-divorce. They also challenge you to confront your own lies and uncover the truth, providing valuable guidance on how to lead yourself and your children effectively.
Episode Summary:
- Lies men tell themselves about marriage and relationships. 0:03
- Mark Santiago explores the lies men tell themselves about marriage and failure.
- Staying in an unhappy marriage for the sake of social status and saving face, rather than prioritizing his own happiness.
- Mark's coach challenges this mindset by pointing out that being single does not define a person's worth or masculinity, and that prioritizing one's own happiness is essential for personal growth and fulfillment.
- Using children as shields in divorce and moving forward. 5:04
- Mark credits himself with raising kids better after divorce, despite ex's mental health struggles.
- Mark advises men to be honest about their feelings and stop hiding behind their children in their relationships.
- Parenting and personal growth after divorce. 8:19
- Mark reflects on his divorce journey and how he prioritized their children's well-being by leveling up and showing up for themselves.
- Mark credits coaching and community support in developing the Empowered Man program, which addresses missing elements of masculinity and community in traditional coaching.
- Mark emphasizes the importance of showing up for his children, even when he's struggling personally.
- Father-daughter dynamics and emotional manipulation. 13:06
- Mark shares his experience of manipulating their daughter emotionally, recognizing the unhealthy dynamic and seeking forgiveness.
- Mark shares how he prioritizes his children's needs and expresses gratitude for the intentionality in building a relationship with his oldest daughter.
- Mark discusses their upcoming training, "The Five Dimensional Man," which focuses on balancing various aspects of life, including parenting, marriage, and personal health.
- Personal growth and transformation. 17:36
- Mark challenges listeners to challenge themselves on their goals and take action for progress.
- Robert Frost suggests overcoming analysis paralysis by engaging in physical activities to feel emotions and release tension.
- Mark encourages listeners to visit empoweredman.co/group for more content and to connect with other empowered men.
Listen In!
YOUR journey of healing starts with trusting the Empowered Man process and a $27 buy-in. If you can’t afford that, then you are doing the wrong work. You are paid commensurate to your value — so create more value.