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episode 176: "Help! Perfectionism Is KILLING My Dream of Being a Writer"
Think perfectionism is a dream killer? Discover the underlying reasons why we allow perfectionism to control our lives and how perfectionism can be both a shield and a sword. Commitment versus compliance and practical step to use your perfectionism as an asset.
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Listen to the Full Episode To Hear:
- Difference between being committed and being compliant.
- Unconscious Payoffs we get by being held hostage by our perfectionism
- How to figure out what's actually holding you back and use your perfectionistic habits to accelerate
- Practical steps to use perfectionism as an asset.
- Acknowledge the Choice: Recognize that being held back by perfectionism is a choice.
- Identify the Payoff: Understand the benefits you derive from your perfectionistic habits.
- Commitment Over Compliance: Commit to small, achievable daily goals and track your progress.
- Challenge Your Excuses: Recognize and challenge the changing excuses your brain offers.
- Seek Guidance: Consider joining programs like Perfectionism Optimized to gain structured support.
EPSISODE 176 TIMESTAMPS:
00:00-Introduction
01:32-The Paradox of Choice of Perfectionism
02:19-Reasons vs. Results: Psychological Gains of Blaming
03:18-Understanding Why We ALLOW Perfectionism to Control Our Lives
03:52-Payoff of Perfectionistic Habits
04:37-Writers Block and Crippling Perfectionism
05:00-Breaking Free from External Control
06:24-How Your Brain Distracts From Your True Goals
08:22-Taking Charge, Staying Committed + Not Letting Excuses Drive Your Actions
08:56-Building Commitment Incrementally with Perfectionism Playbook
09:37-Actionable Steps for Aspiring Writers