An Empowered man is one who communicates like a leader, sets boundaries that gets respect, knows who he is and what he wants...and owns his own sh*t. The Empowered AF podcast is designed to help men do just that in their marriage and life. Join entrepreneur, coach, and father Mark Santiago every week as he shares the secrets to stepping into your own empowerment as a man. Each week you’ll hear about taboo issues that hold back the modern-day man from knowing who he is, what he wants, and how to become the man he wants to be as a father, husband, and leader.
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In this episode, Mark is joined by Sam Davis and they discuss Sam's transformative journey post-divorce. From dissecting his ego's role in the marriage to confronting his past behavior, they unearth the raw emotions and pivotal realizations. Sam's heartfelt letter to his ego becomes a beacon of hope for self-acceptance and growth. His commitment to being a better father and breaking generational patterns shines through, offering a powerful lesson in personal evolution and parental guidance.
Episode Summary:
- Marriage, communication, and control. 0:03
- Host Mark Santiago introduces the next stage of his podcast, Empowered AF 2.0, focusing on healthy communication and lifestyle for men.
- Sam describes how his business travel and desire for control led to the end of his marriage, causing his wife to feel lonely and unhappy.
- Sam reflects on how his controlling behavior was a hindrance to his relationship, rather than a help, and how he wishes he could have seen his wife's perspective earlier.
- Personal growth and self-awareness in a post-divorce context. 4:20
- Sam recognizes and takes ownership of his role in failing marriage after joining empowerment group.
- Sam realized he was raised with toxic masculinity and was taught to suppress emotions, leading to a desire to get his ex-wife back through the program.
- Sam's initial motivation for joining the program was to change himself in hopes of getting his ex-wife back, but he eventually realized the importance of self-improvement and becoming a better person.
- Sam realized the importance of living in the moment and prioritizing his daughters, leading to increased happiness and fulfillment.
- Sam's shift in focus allowed him to put his daughters first and experience the rewards of doing so.
- Fatherhood, marriage, and emotional intelligence. 11:48
- Sam reflects on missed opportunities with children, now prioritizing presence in their lives.
- Sam shares how they've learned to live in the present and enjoy his family, rather than focusing on the future and saving money.
- Mark appreciates the progress Sam has made in his communication and emotional intelligence, and notes that it's opened his mind up to new realizations.
- Ego and marriage after a failed relationship. 15:33
- Ego and wounds played a significant role in the Sam's failed marriage and subsequent decision-making.
- Sam admits to being an "embarrassing dick" to his partner during a difficult moment, revealing his ego's defensive mechanisms.
- Sam reflects on his divorce and the idea that love is a fleeting emotion that can change over time, requiring work and commitment to maintain a successful marriage.
- Sam acknowledges that letting go of a loved one can be difficult, but it's sometimes necessary for personal growth and happiness.
- Moving on from a past relationship. 23:46
- Sam reflects on his relationship with their ex-wife, realizing he was okay without her and finding happiness with his kids.
- Sam acknowledges his feelings of hurt and betrayal, but also expresses hope for the future and the need to move on without his ex-wife's acceptance.
- Sam has been writing letters to his ex-wife, allowing himself to feel and process his emotions without needing her approval, and has started dating again.
- Empowering men to overcome personal issues and improve relationships. 28:45
- Sam shares his journey of overcoming personal issues to become a better father and husband, hoping to break the pattern of divorce in his family.
- Sam's goal is for his children to break the trend of divorce and have healthier relationships in the future.
- Sam emphasizes the importance of teaching girls respect and how to be a good wife, while also respecting themselves and being happy.
- Mark appreciates the openness of the guest and the value of his work in empowering men.
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