Is Perfectionism the new ADHD? How do I stop living in fear of failure? How to get out of my own way? Why am I so hard on myself? Why do I self-sabotage? Will ruminating + catastrophizing ever end? There's a BETTER Way to Perfectionism, that's empowering highly driven, Type-A, ambitious perfectionists to OWN their perfectionism instead of owned by it. Perfectionism Rewired host Courtney Love Gavin (CLG) shows you that way in every episode. Perfectionism Rewired is committed to neuroscience truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, neuroplasticity + interoception techniques for the practical-perfectionist who wants that extra edge over obsolete advice to "overcome your perfectionism" Listen for fierce insights on exiting victim mentality, what self-sabotage *really is*, how to stop: people pleasing without compromising kindness, catastrophizing, ruminating, overthinking and upgrading all-or-nothing mindset, so you can quit fighting against your perfectionistic tendencies and feel as put together as your life looks...
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episode 190: Obsessing Over Your Mistakes
Mistakes are the scabs perfectionists love to pick, even if they make us bleed + leave a heinous scar that only we can see. Find out the top 5 reasons perfectionists are conditioned to be like moths drawn to the flame of mistakes, why overthinking mistakes feels like an addiction to your brain, the RIGHT way to handle mistakes so you don't keep making the same ones on repeat, even if you're in a high-stakes career where precision is a MUST.
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Listen to the full episode to hear:
- How Perfectionistic patterns skew your ability to accurately see your mistakes
- Why your brain is OBSESSED with overthinking every small mistake (hint, it involves dopamine)
- Getting more upset over a random TikTok comment than celebrating your big wins begins to make sense
"Dopamine is not the feel good neurotransmitter. It's the predictor hormone. What makes us feel good is the certainty it brings. Obsessing over your mistakes. You know how you're going to feel. Yes, you're going to feel crappy, but it's the crappy that you can count on." - CLG, On Why Perfectionists Continue To Obsess Over Their Mistakes
EPSISODE 190 TIMESTAMPS:
00:00-Introduction to Perfectionism Rewired
01:43-Cringeworthy Moment When My Obsession Over Small Mistakes Injured My Career
02:26-When You Get 100 Gold Stars But All You Can Think About Is the 1 Nastygram
03:05-Top Five Reasons Perfectionists Are Conditioned To Handle Mistakes Wrong
04:48-How Mistakes Are Like The Weather
05:50-Penalized For Mistakes As A Kid + Stuff Taken Away
06:25-The Correct Way To Obsess Over Mistakes
07:00-WHY am I obsessed with this every small mistake? I should be happy
07:12-You believe the mistakes mean something deeper about you
07:57-Your Reticular Activating System Is Trained To Fetch All Your Mistakes
08:13-How Neurosculpting Rewires Your Pattern + Gives You Better Sources of Dopamine
08:35-Your Career Demands Precision + is High-Stakes
09:11-How To Turn Those 'oops' Moments into Enjoyable A-HA Moments