Is Perfectionism the new ADHD? How do I stop living in fear of failure? How to get out of my own way? Why am I so hard on myself? Why do I self-sabotage? Will ruminating + catastrophizing ever end? There's a BETTER Way to Perfectionism, that's empowering highly driven, Type-A, ambitious perfectionists to OWN their perfectionism instead of owned by it. Perfectionism Rewired host Courtney Love Gavin (CLG) shows you that way in every episode. Perfectionism Rewired is committed to neuroscience truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, neuroplasticity + interoception techniques for the practical-perfectionist who wants that extra edge over obsolete advice to "overcome your perfectionism" Listen for fierce insights on exiting victim mentality, what self-sabotage *really is*, how to stop: people pleasing without compromising kindness, catastrophizing, ruminating, overthinking and upgrading all-or-nothing mindset, so you can quit fighting against your perfectionistic tendencies and feel as put together as your life looks...
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episode 192: When Taking A Few Deep Breaths Isn't Enough
NONE of the strategies for overcoming perfectionism worked for me. Perfectionism Recovery made me feel even worse (I l????ve giving my ALL!). Changing my thoughts was impossible bc I had SO MANY. Meditation made me feel incompetent bc it was so hard to quiet my mind. Therapy left me feeling better in the moment but then anxious AF when reality hits + IDK the ‘correct’ tool to use..For decades I believed I was defective. It was ALL.my.fault I couldn’t get what works great for everyone else on Earth to work for me. Harder I tried, more crippled by perfectionism I became.. UNTIL one day I discovered conventional therapies aren’t made to grasp the highly-nuanced nature of perfectionism AND the compliance, top-down approach, actually exacerbates the worst parts of perfectionism.
If you've ever felt misunderstood or frustrated bc what you're trying isn't working, this episode will make it all make sense. PS- Don't take my word for it. Hear real-life stories from perfectionists who had just about given up before finding Perfectionism Optimized.
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"Your inner experience is always correct and valid. It's crucial to find support that acknowledges and works with your unique inner world as a perfectionist."-CLG episode 192 Perfectionism Rewired
In This Episode You’ll Learn:EPSISODE 192 TIMESTAMPS:
01:13-Struggling with perfectionism? It’s not You. It’s…
02:18-Playing the wait and see strategy out until a crisis
03:27- How the Perfectionist Playbooks come in clutch
05:00-When You Have Nobody To Turn To or Who Understands
06:15-Inner Experience of Being A Perfectionist
07:30-How complying with the rules to earn the reward, screws over perfectionists
08:16-When Therapy Makes Perfectionism Worse (IRL client example)
09:54-Why Compliance Driven Support DOES NOT work for perfectionists
10:26-When Deep Breathing Just Isn’t Cutting It. This.is.WHY
11:12-Dangers of hierarchical support like doctor + patient
12:54-Confused bc taking deep breaths is supposed to be relaxing
13:18-What lies beneath the surface of perfectionism is what’s controlling it
13:30-Why it feels like you're playing a game of whack a mole,
14:00-How Perfectionistic Habits are like the Golden Gate Bridge
15:02-Love Researching, learning or self-diagnose? LISTEN UP
15:44-If deep breathing is not enough, what is?
16:30-The one thing that makes changes easy to do
17:21-Surprising changes for Carly + her young kids with a perfectionist-affirming coach
18:14-Practical tools for daily application even during hectic days
19:23-Why Neurosculpting Works
20:00-Secret Way Human Bodies decide how anxious or calm to be
21:05-Sneak Preview of next episode