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episode 194: Everything You Need to Know About Self Regulation as a Perfectionist
Can’t seem to calm down despite taking deep breaths, memorizing ALL the coping skills + “knowing” what to do? Forget about those dusty generic strategies. Discover the HIDDEN self-regulation skill that no one's told you about until now! Get the relief, control and answers you’ve been longing for with tailored, effective emotional resilience methods that work for YOU.
You’ll learn to recognize those subtle, personal cues that tell you stress is creeping in so you can take control. And the coolest part? You’ll learn how to combat it on the spot – whether you’re dealing with an annoying colleague who’s blowing you up on Slack, a last minute snafu in your rigorously relaxed vacation itinerary, or even a cranky mother-in-law (we all have one, don’t we?). Join CLG in making emotional poise and resilience your new normal.
PS. If you're like WTF is Interoception and Interoceptive Awareness listen to Perfectionism Rewired podcast ep. 193
PPS. Interocpetion is your Inner Sense (literally!), it's your Inner Experience as you go through the world.Interoceptive Awareness is the process of noticing your body signals, connecting your signals to the meaning for YOU and also regulating your body signals as you experience noise. Your Interoceptive abilities is how you become present and provides us with an integrated sense of self.
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In this episode of Perfectionism Rewired podcast you’ll discover:
- Why in the heat of crucial moments your meticulously learned coping strategies vanish when you need them most
- MAJOR CLUES most doctors, therapists and coaches miss that are stifling your emotional regulation
- Biggest misconceptions about perfectionist learning self regulation
- The simple way to strengthen your emotional resilience as intuitive, empowering responses in the face of dumpster fires
Here's A Glance At Episode 194:
00:00-Introduction
01:23-What is self regulation
02:09-Coping Strategies for Perfectionists
03:17-Building resilience in stressful situations
04:48-Why Anxiety Coping Skills don’t help with intense emotions
06:11-What doctors, therapists and clinicians miss that stunt your emotional intelligence
07:29-The Root of Effective Self Regulation Skills
08:48-Why traditional self regulation approaches fall short for perfectionists
10:23-How to build emotional resilience
12:31-More effective approach to emotional self regulation for perfectionists
Highly Credible Sources Referenced in Ep. 194 Include:
- Goerlich K. S. (2018). The Multifaceted Nature of Alexithymia - A Neuroscientific Perspective. Frontiers in psychology, 9, 1614. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2018.01614
- Kummer, K., Mattes, A. & Stahl, J. Do perfectionists show negative, repetitive thoughts facing uncertain situations?. Curr Psychol (2023). https://doi.org/10.1007/s12144-023-04409-3
- Martini, M., Marzola, E., Brustolin, A., & Abbate-Daga, G. (2021). Feeling imperfect and imperfectly feeling: A network analysis on perfectionism, interoceptive sensibility, and eating symptomatology in anorexia nervosa. European Eating Disorders Review, 29(6), 893–909. https://doi.org/10.1002/erv.2863
- Mattes, A., Mück, M., & Stahl, J. (2023). Perfectionism-related variations in error processing in a task with increased response selection complexity. Personality neuroscience, 5, e12. https://doi.org/10.1017/pen.2022.3
- Ventura-Bort C, Wendt J and Weymar M (2021) The Role of Interoceptive Sensibility and Emotional Conceptualization for the Experience of Emotions. Front. Psychol. 12:712418. doi: 10.3389/fpsyg.2021.712418