In this episode CLG lays out the shortest, simplest pathway to the result perfectionists actually want: power, peace and presence with a special focus on parenting and daily life. Discover the root of control versus power, the outdated strategies not designed for perfectionistic brains very widely used in psychotherapy and why they’re ultimately harmful to perfectionists in the long-run.
Imagine steering a tiny dinghy in stormy seas. That's control. Now, picture yourself commanding a majestic yacht, gliding effortlessly over the waves. That's power. That’s this episode.
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In This Episode You’ll Learn:00:00-Holiday gift: Upgrading from control to power
01:52-Understanding the impact of controlling perfectionistic tendencies on daily life
03:11-Felt Safety: Why your environment doesn't determine your safety and what does
05:53-Hidden motivations secretly fueling perfectionism anxiety
07:22-The Power Perfectionist: How detaching from outcomes is the POWER MOVE
09:00-Mindfulness Strategies for stepping off the hamster wheel from hell (Control Loops)
10:42-Distinction between needing and wanting to do something
13:14-Perks of living in Present Time + enhancing perfectionist productivity
15:04-Being responsive instead of reactive
16:54-Truth Booth: Extremely Controlling In Relationships
18:37-Holism, person-emotion-action = presence in your window of tolerance
19:54-Exploring embodied presence and interoceptive connection
20:20-Your EPIC Framework: Practical tools for perfectionists to tune in + build permanent resilience
23:03-Recognizing the generational impact of self-regulation on perfectionism
"When you start to pay attention to how safe you feel, you better discern whether your perfectionistic response is an accurate reflection of what's happening around you." -Courtney Love Gavin, Perfectionism Rewired Podcast Ep. 196
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What does Perfectionist Affirming mean? Perfectionism affirming is an empowered view where perfectionistic tendencies are not seen as deficits to be “fixed” and nobody is a victim of perfectionism. Instead you are fully in charge of YOU, given tools for agency and perfectionism is leveraged to work for you. Part of neurodiversity movement that sees no “correct” way for the brain to work and humans as unique individuals who all experience the world differently.