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episode 198: Perfectionist Sunk Cost Fallacy: When Loyalty Becomes Lethal
Discover how the perfectionist sunk cost fallacy could be holding you back and learn how to break free from its grip. From wearing clothes you hate, to staying in relationships or careers way past their expiration date, Sunk Cost fallacy is a lethal landmine for perfectionistic people. Find out if you’re making decisions aligned with your values or loss aversion, sunk cost definition for perfectionists, tricks sunk cost effect plays on you, why its challenging to see your own sunk costs, IRL sunk cost fallacy examples and how perfectionists can stop falling prey to sunk cost suck-i-ness forever.
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Positive Perfectionist Practices for Removing Sunk Cost Fallacy:- Identify Sunk Cost Fallacy: Recognize where you're holding onto investments, relationships, or decisions you would not re-choose for yourself today BC you’ve “already spent so much time, energy, money or effort”
- If You Want Your Future, Forget Your Past: Stop living in the prison of your past choices and exit to the playground of possibility. Dropping the black and white thinking that persevering = productive
- Make intentional decisions that empower you for the rest of your life: Check your choices with your values and pivot away from unfulfilling situations or relationships.
- Practice Makes Permanent: To progress 100x faster, make the journey funner and strengthen your interoceptive awareness consider working with a perfectionism coach
00:00-Perfectionists + Sunk Costs
01:51-What is sunk cost fallacy
03:26-Shedding the Weight of Sunk Costs
04:56-Being Resourceful instead of limiting your resources
05:36-Sunk Cost Effect in Unfulfilling Careers + Unhappy Relationships
07:12-Why FEELS Smart To Continue Pouring Money, time, effort when you've already sunk
09:18-Putting yourself in the victim drama triangle
11:10-Sunk Cost With Example Baby Gucci Loafers
12:03-Quick Correct Choices with Embodied Presence Interoceptive Connection
13:32-when to persevere and when to pivot
14:36-Prioritizing your values over sunk costs
15:50-No longer a victim to chronic overachieving
18:17-Proud of yourself regardless of how much you accomplish
Rich Resources Mentioned In This Sunk Cost Episode:
- How I Lost 50 pounds by Being The Worst (Leveraging Perfectionism video)
- Perfectionist's Guide to Uncovering Victim Mentality (Part 1)
- Mamba Mentality vs Victim Mentality (Part 2)
- Are You Living In The Victim Triangle? (Perfectionism Rewired ep. 181)
- Starter Perfectionism Rewiring 1-1 Coaching Pack (steal of a deal)
HIGHLY CREDIBLE SOURCES ON SUNK COST REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE:
- Dijkstra, K. A., & Hong, Y. Y. (2019). The feeling of throwing good money after bad: The role of affective reaction in the sunk-cost fallacy. PloS one, 14(1), e0209900. https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0209900
- Jarmolowicz, D. P., Bickel, W. K., Sofis, M. J., Hatz, L. E., & Mueller, E. T. (2016). Sunk costs, psychological symptomology, and help seeking. SpringerPlus, 5(1), 1699. https://doi.org/10.1186/s40064-016-3402-z
- Schmitzer-Torbert N. (2020). Mindfulness and decision making: sunk costs or escalation of commitment?. Cognitive processing, 21(3), 391–402. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10339-020-00978-4
- Schulreich, S., Dandolo, L. C., & Schwabe, L. (2022). Sunk costs under stress: Acute stress reduces the impact of past expenses on risky decisions. Psychoneuroendocrinology, 137, 105632. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.psyneuen.2021.105632
- Tait, V., & Miller, H. L., Jr (2019). Loss Aversion as a Potential Factor in the Sunk-Cost Fallacy. International journal of psychological research, 12(2), 8–16. https://doi.org/10.21500/20112084.3951
- Zeng, J., Zhang, Q., Chen, C., Yu, R., & Gong, Q. (2013). An fMRI study on sunk cost effect. Brain research, 1519, 63–70. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.brainres.2013.05.001
Perfectionism Rewired Ethics + Transparency:
Perfectionism Rewired podcast is brought to you by Perfectionist Solutions and is committed to neuroscience truth and accuracy through a perfectionism affirming lens.
What does Perfectionist Affirming mean? Perfectionism affirming is an empowered view where perfectionistic tendencies are not seen as deficits to be “fixed” and nobody is a victim of perfectionism. Instead you are fully in charge of YOU, given tools for agency and perfectionism is leveraged to work for you. Part of neuorinclusivity movement that sees all humans as uniquely wired individuals who all experience the world differently.