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episode 172: How To Overcome The Cycle Of Disempowerment
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In this episode, Mark and Joey dive deep into the cycle of disempowerment, engaging their audience by prompting them to share their experiences. They explore the impact of guilt, blame, and the tendency to fix things in relationships. They challenge conventional narratives and encourage you to take ownership of your actions, fostering personal growth and the pursuit of authentic connections.
Episode Summary:
- Feeling disempowered and the cycle of guilt. 0:03
- Mark Santiago introduces the topic of empowerment and invites listeners to share their experiences with disempowerment.
- Joey discusses the cycle of disempowerment, including feeling stuck, overanalyzing, and hiding behind achievements.
- Men often turn to unhealthy coping mechanisms, such as drugs or alcohol, to deal with feelings of inadequacy and shame.
- Feeling guilty about not being able to fix a problem or figure out what's going on, which Joey calls "the dogma."
- Divorce, toxic masculinity, and personal growth. 5:49
- Mark shares their experience with divorce and how it affected their children, emphasizing the importance of owning one's "stuff" and creating a healthy environment for kids.
- Mark believes that divorce doesn't have to be destructive and that there is a path through it that can help children thrive, with the help of a supportive stepparent.
- Mark discusses how men are socialized to fix problems, but often end up fixing the wrong problem, leading to unhealthy patterns and relationships.
- Mark argues that taking ownership of one's actions and emotions is key to personal growth and healthy relationships, rather than sacrificing oneself for the sake of a marriage.
- Blame and responsibility in marriage conflicts. 11:04
- Joey acknowledges that men often blame external factors for their relationship problems, rather than taking responsibility for their own actions.
- The importance of taking ownership over one's marriage and personal growth.
- Mark emphasizes the importance of both partners wanting to work on a marriage, stating that one person cannot save a marriage alone.
- Mark criticizes the idea that one person can "get their spouse back" and then six months later, they're cheating again, highlighting the need for self-reflection and personal growth.
- Taking ownership and responsibility in relationships. 15:28
- Men taking ownership of their roles in failed marriages and blaming themselves for not being a "safe place" for their partners.
- Taking responsibility and ownership to break free from guilt, shame, and blame cycles.
- Men are encouraged to join the Empowered Man group for further support and knowledge on how to be an empowered man in their relationships and various aspects of life.
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