Is Perfectionism the new ADHD? How do I stop living in fear of failure? How to get out of my own way? Why am I so hard on myself? Why do I self-sabotage? Will ruminating + catastrophizing ever end? There's a BETTER Way to Perfectionism, that's empowering highly driven, Type-A, ambitious perfectionists to OWN their perfectionism instead of owned by it. Perfectionism Rewired host Courtney Love Gavin (CLG) shows you that way in every episode. Perfectionism Rewired is committed to neuroscience truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, neuroplasticity + interoception techniques for the practical-perfectionist who wants that extra edge over obsolete advice to "overcome your perfectionism" Listen for fierce insights on exiting victim mentality, what self-sabotage *really is*, how to stop: people pleasing without compromising kindness, catastrophizing, ruminating, overthinking and upgrading all-or-nothing mindset, so you can quit fighting against your perfectionistic tendencies and feel as put together as your life looks...
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episode 206: How To Rise From Setbacks *without* Beating Yourself Up
Are you a high achiever who secretly struggles when things don't go according to plan? A setback occurs and it feels like your world is falling apart? SAME. In this episode, I'm candidly sharing my recent stumbles and how I moved forward without blame, making myself small or beating my self to a pulp. You'll learn what NOT to do when things go awry, how to melt away the ruminating and catasrophizing and what to do with all those feelings inside (it's not AT ALL what you think).
If you're ready to experience the amazingness that comes with being an empowered perfectionist and want proven, science-backed tools to PLAYFULLY INTERRUPT the perfectionistic habits currently cramping your prolificness, you belong inside the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator
Listen to the Full Episode To Learn:
- What happens when you get a sucky setback surprise and how to empoweringly rise to the occasion.
- How to move forward without turning into a robot or constantly beating yourself up over what went "wrong"
- Where all your power is and how to skip the ruminating about the past or catastrophizing about the future
- Why You want to focus on moving THROUGH your feelings, instead of fixating on what's causing them or why they are there
- Strategies you can start using today to stop beating yourself up + handle setbacks with expert-level skills
Ep. 206 TimeStamps
00:00-When Everything Goes Wrong Despite Your Best Efforts
02:02-Understanding Why Your Inner Critic Calls
03:20-Accepting Life As A Human = Embracing Adaptability Over Rigid Planning
04:39-Ruminating + Futility of Dwelling on Your Past
05:32-Power of Living in the Present
06:47-The Doritos Analogy: Choosing Better Responses
07:39-Debunking the Cause-and-Effect Fallacy
08:29-Taking Responsibility for Your Choices
09:11-How to Handle Emotions Constructively
10:06-Staying Present to Rise Above Challenges
11:17-Overcoming the Self-Criticism Trap
12:56-Embracing Mistakes and Perfectionist Humanity