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Heal From Emotional Abuse: 3 Tips
Is it possible to heal from betrayal trauma and emotional abuse?
Absolutely.
Join Cat, an APSATS certified trauma specialist and Jen, a member of the Betrayal Trauma Recovery community, as they discuss ways that victims can find empowerment and healing. Listen to the free BTR podcast or read the full transcript below.
Feeling "Stuck"? Use These Three Tips To Start Healing Today
Many victims of betrayal trauma and emotional abuse describe "feeling stuck" as they try to process trauma.
Abuse, by its very nature, is meant to make women feel powerless, small, and "stuck".
Using these three tips, women can move forward with life: safe, strong, and empowered.
1. Start Giving Responsibility Back To Your Abuser (And Stop Taking the Blame)
Many women suffering from the effects of betrayal trauma and emotional abuse are conditioned by their abusers to believe that the abuse is their fault, rather than the fault of the abuser. This is called "victim-blaming" and it's all too common in today's society.
Where they've been told this lie for such a long time, that this on them that somehow this is their fault, that if they did this or if they did that... It is inevitable that they start to believe that stuff. So whilst not everybody is vehement in saying this is my problem, we definitely see a huge amount of confusion in terms of which are my bits and which are his bits.The truth is most of it is his bits and the bits that are yours were in response to the bits that were his. That's why it's so important for women to have a safe place to talk it through with other women.Cat, APSATS certified trauma specialist
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MkaKJUXJIjQ
Victims Cannot Cause, Cure, or Control Emotional Abuse and Betrayal
You can start healing today by handing the responsibility to your abuser: he betrayed you, he has committed relational abuse. You are not to blame. There is nothing you could have done to control, cure, or cause the abuse and betrayal. Give him the responsibility back and shed the blame that you've been carrying.
2. Start a Self-Care Routine That Includes Positive Self-Talk
Most, if not all women in betrayal trauma, have also suffered from extensive verbal and emotional abuse.
Their sense of self-worth as well as their awareness of their own needs have eroded over time because abusive men feel entitled to be the "center of the universe" and in doing so, condition women to ignore their own needs and their own powerful selves.
I would definitely go back and tell myself I am more than worth it! That I will get through this, that this is his stuff and not mine, and that I don't need to know all the answers right now.My needs are important. My feelings are valid. I would definitely talk positively to myself as opposed to beating myself up and talking negatively. Jen, member of the Betrayal Trauma Recovery community
Victims of Emotional Abuse Are "More Than Worth It"
Start a self-care routine today, and begin by simply saying,
"I am more than worth it."
Other self-care essentials include:
* Setting and maintaining boundaries that separate you from abusive behaviors* Joining a