Betrayal Trauma Recovery - BTR.ORG

When Lynn Marie Cherry discovered her husband using pornography right after her second son was born, she experienced denial for several years.

Eventually, she was able to use her emotions as a catalyst to move toward safety. Setting boundaries, learning self-care, becoming educated about trauma and abuse, and sharing her story helped Lynn Marie to begin the journey to hope and freedom. Listen to the free BTR podcast for her full interview or read the full transcript below.
You Can Find Hope and Freedom, Too
At BTR, we believe that every woman can seek safety for herself by setting and maintaining effective boundaries. Safety is the foundation for hope and freedom.
Don't feel bad. Everyone goes through this denial and pushing away of doubts. It's totally normal.

Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery
Denial is a powerful tool that our brains use to cope with devastating trauma. It is completely normal and understandable. However, if you are here, you have probably realized that something isn't quite right.
Emotional Abuse Victims Find Hope and Freedom as They Shed Denial and Embrace Safety
I walked over and opened the door and instantly felt this horrible flood of emotions. Shame and loss. It felt so tangible. I saw pornography on the computer screen. So now this thing that I think isn't quite right is right in front of my eyes. I shut the door and walked away and continued pretending and coping for another four years.

Lynn Marie Cherry, author of Keep Walking: 50 Days to Hope and Freedom After Betrayal
Choosing to see the betrayal and abuse for what it is can be extremely difficult for victims. It is important for women to find at least one safe person to share their journey with as they begin to shed the denial and begin making choices to protect themselves from abuse.

Only when women choose to shed denial, can hope and freedom begin to flood into their lives. The truth really does set you free. 

We know how gut-wrenching and painful this step in the process is. Don't do it alone. Join the BTR support group today.
Hope and Freedom Come as Victims Find Safety
There is peace available and regardless of what ends up happening in your marriage, there is a way for you to move forward...there is a life for you beyond the pain and trauma being experienced right now.

Lynn Marie Cherry, author of Keep Walking: 50 Days to Hope and Freedom After Betrayal
Abuse and freedom cannot co-exist. Women can find hope and freedom as they courageously set and maintain boundaries that separate themselves from abusive behavior. For some women this will mean divorce, for others, this will mean separation, for others this could mean staying married while maintaining firm boundaries in the relationship that limit contact and communication.

Regardless of how a woman sets and maintains her boundaries, the bottom line is that the boundaries must be an absolute protection to her from abusive behaviors happening to her. And then she must take a hard look at the person in her life that is causing the harm she is protecting herself from and ask: aren't I worth more than this? Spoiler: You are absolutely worth more than this. 
Abuse Victims Find Hope and Freedom as They Share Their Stories
Betrayed women often express incredible healing as they share their stories with other women who can relate to what they have been through. Support groups like Betrayal Trauma Therapy Group offer validation, community, and support. Join today.