Remember the last time you and few close friends stayed up too late at the Diner because no one wanted to leave? You didn’t need that grilled cheese with a side of pancakes but damn if it didn’t hit the spot! You laughed until you cried or cried until you laughed. Regardless of which lead to what, you left feeling a little more thoughtful, grateful, and actually full. Those are the best conversations we have in our lives, and the reason why Diner Talks with James exists. I’ll be your bearded bespectacled host, James Robilotta. I’m an author and professional speaker who talks to willing and unwilling audiences on the role that authenticity and vulnerability must play in life and business. I am a life coach with a Masters in counseling and 16+ years of improv comedy experience. Most importantly, I am a fellow human being with a fervent curiosity for others’ passions, relationships, insecurities, ambitions, patterns, and food quirks. So, come join me in The Diner. Slide into the booth, place your order, and tell me a story.
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episode 22: Diving into our darkest fears with Darryl Bellamy Jr.
Stepping into the diner this week is my man, Darryl Bellamy Jr. He is a fear researcher and an outrageous speaker. Before we got into that, Darryl and I debated the right way to eat grits. He then told me about an early entrepreneurial failure of his after college that left him sleeping on friends’ couches. Then he landed a good paying consulting gig... but that just was not it for him. Confidence is ultimately what kept him moving towards what he wanted to do, being a speaker. As a speaker Darryl talks about fears… think failure not spiders. His research shows that the fear of not being enough has overtaken the fear of failure as most popular. So we talked about what happens when you don’t wake up and feel fearless. I asked Darryl where is consistent confidence, optimism, and discipline comes from, because I often don’t have all of them.
About the Guest:
Darryl has collected, read, and shared thousands of students fears on campuses all over the country. He prides himself in reading every fear, which keeps him connected with what students are feeling and at times, hiding. His energy is infectious, along with providing actionable strategies to move your student’s from Fearful to Fearless. Thousands of student’s wear “The Fearless Bracelet,” given to every student inspiring them to push through fear long after Darryl leaves the campus.
Darryl Bellamy graduated from the University of North Carolina at Charlotte in 2012, and three years later became a Corporate America dropout after quitting his job to travel the country inspiring students to conquer their fears and self-doubt.
While in undergrad Darryl was heavily involved on campus as an RA, Orientation Counselor, SGA Chair, leadership workshop facilitator, as well as a proud brother of Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity, Inc. Darryl, known for his infectious energy, was an overly involved student leader who overcame his own fears to receive multiple awards, participate in two corporate internships and run for student body office.
After collecting, (still) reading, and cataloging over 34,000+ written student fears as of today, Darryl is now considered an expert on the topic of student fear. The first time he asked students to write their fears; He was taken aback by their rawness and transparency, inspiring him to find his true calling by solely focusing on ensuring they can overcome their fears to achieve and lead fearlessly.
Connect with Darryl and learn more:
Website: https://www.bellamyinspires.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bellamyinspires/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BellamyInspires/
About the Host:
Friends! Here's a somewhat stuffy bio of me:
I am an author, professional speaker, coach, host, and entrepreneur. My first book, Leading Imperfectly: The value of being authentic for leaders, professionals, and human beings, is available wherever people buy books. I speak internationally to willing and unwilling attendees about authenticity, vulnerability, and leadership. My clients include American Express, General Electric (GE), Accenture, Yale University, The Ohio State University, and many others. As a speaker, I am doing the two things I loves the most: making people think and making people laugh!
I host my own events multiple times a year. They are 2-day events called Living Imperfectly Live (and sometimes they are 1-day virtual events). They are a space where humans from every walk of life can come together to be part of a community on the pursuit of badassery. The goal is to help attendees start living the life we say we want to live.
Alas, you're here because of an idea I had a number of years ago and didn't think I was good enough to pull it off. I finally acted on it and alas Diner Talks with James was born! As you can see from what I do in my professional life, Diner Talks is alligned with everything I believe in and teach. If this wasn't dry enough, and you would like to know more info about my speaking, events, or coaching feel free to check out my website: JamesTRobo.com.
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