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episode 169: 3 Values We Can Expect From Men
In a world where betrayal, abuse, and sexual exploitation wreck havoc on too many families, women may wonder, what can I really expect from men?
Sarah McDugal joins Anne on the free BTR Podcast to debunk the destructive lies from the book Every Man's Battle that would indicate that women can, and should, expect nothing but abuse, deflection, and devaluation from men.
Sarah empowers women to understand that we can expect strong values from men - and if they choose to abuse, betray, and lie, we can choose a life free of abuse by setting boundaries and seeking safety.
Read the full transcript and listen to the free BTR podcast for more.
You Can Expect Men To Live Truthful Lives
As Anne Blythe, founder of BTR, often says, "Not lying is not rocket science."
Women can expect men to live truthful lives. A truthful life includes:
* Speaking the truth* Living authentically (behind closed doors and in public)* Never withholding important information from his partner* Disclosing his past and current sexual history* Owning his own choices without blaming others* Living a life void of secrecy* Never engaging in manipulation, gaslighting, deflection, or blame-shifting
Tragically, many victims of betrayal express that the dishonesty that accompanies betrayal is often just as painful, or even more painful, than the betrayal itself.
Expect men to be honest and truthful. If they choose to lie and deceive, seek a peaceful and safe life by setting boundaries that protect you from their choices
You Can Expect Men To Reject Misogyny
Women can expect men to reject misogynistic scripting and embrace the truth: objectifying women is abuse.
When men choose to minimize and justify pornography use and the dehumanization of women, they are devaluing human life.
This is intolerably cruel and a dangerous prerequisite to further forms of abuse.
Men who reject misogyny:
* Do not refer to women or their body parts in sexualized terms* Are faithful to their partners* Do not use pornography or participate in any other form of sexual exploitation* Do not sexually fantasize about others* Do not share/sell explicit photographs/videos of their partner or other individuals * Do not talk about human intimacy in casual settings * Do not view, read, or listen to media that glorifies misogyny * Treat women as equals* Seek ways to empower their partners and children* Validate and empathize with their traumatized partner* Protect women and children from misogynistic individuals including family members, clergy, therapists, and others* Provide security for partners and children* Are intentional about their voice, body language, and facial expression to avoid accidentally intimidating women or children
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=atXtC330ITw&t=219s
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