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episode 182: Divorcing An Abuser 101
If you are ready to break the cycle of abuse for yourself and your children, divorce may be the right decision for you.
But do you feel overwhelmed at the thought of hiring a lawyer? Going to court? Fighting for custody? Don't worry - you can do this. Wendy Hernandez joins Anne Blythe on the free BTR podcast to share the basics that you need to know about divorcing an abuser. Read the full transcript below and listen to the free BTR podcast for more.
Divorcing An Abuser 101: Hiring Your Lawyer
Abuse and betrayal victims may feel daunted and overwhelmed at the idea of interviewing and hiring an attorney.
Wendy Hernandez gives helpful tips to women in the process of selecting an attorney:
* Don't be afraid to interview more than one attorney* Make sure that your attorney understands narcissism and abuse* Choose an attorney that will fight for you, but not stir the pot * Make sure that you understand your attorneys fees from the get-go* Select an attorney that you feel comfortable and safe with
Victims can enlist trusted friends to help them in the attorney selection process. This is not a decision that needs to be rushed and women can trust their intuition through the process.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rD89GkQTlPg
Divorcing An Abuser 101: Find Healthy Ways To Work Through The Trauma
Get the emotional help that you need so your attorney can help you.Wendy Hernandez
When women try to navigate the legal system while carrying heavy burdens of trauma and living in constant fight-or-flight mode, they may have trouble making logical decisions. Emotionally-based decisions tend to muddy the waters and make it difficult for victims to think strategically.
Victims can choose to process their trauma and express their emotions in safe and consistent ways by joining support groups, like the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group, so that when it's time to focus on the legal aspect of their situation, they can give it their full attention.
Divorcing An Abuser 101: Understand "Best Interest Factors"
When working through a custody battle, it's important that victims understand the concept of "best interest factors" - or, what the courts will be considering as the important issues that determine who the children should be spending their time with.
Wendy Hernandez has provided a free download of the Best Interest Factors Checklist Here. As women become more familiar with courtroom language and what judges and magistrates are looking for, they are more confident and better prepared to present their authentic selves in the courtroom.
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Full Transcript:
Anne: Welcome to Betrayal Trauma Recovery, this is Anne.
I have Wendy Hernandez back on today's episode. If you didn't hear last week,