Victims of betrayal and abuse often feel paralyzed when they consider leaving their partner - the uncertainty, sadness, and confusion can make it feel impossible to ditch your divorce fears.
Coach Debra, divorce expert, joins Anne on the free BTR podcast to empower women to work through their divorce fears and find the peace and safety they need. Read the full transcript below and listen to the BTR podcast for more.
Ditch Your Divorce Fears: Money, Kids, Conflict
Coach Debra shares that the main three fears that women face when deciding whether or not to divorce are money, kids, and conflict:
"Very often, women have money on their minds. They have been kept out of the loop, in terms of family finances, or they're stay-at-home moms or lower earners, and they're really worried about can they support themselves. They're often worried about the impact this is going to have on their children, and they're worried about the conflict because we know when we're married to abusers, they don't like to be told no. So when we say, no more, I'm done, they don't like to take that as an answer because that's a pretty hard boundary we're setting."Coach Debra, Betrayal Trauma Recovery
How Do I Face My Divorce Fears?
The fears that victims face regarding divorce are real and valid. Victims can work through these fears by honoring the reality that divorce is hard, but divorcing an abuser is hard on an entirely different level.
When victims work with a BTR coach, like Coach Debra, and use supportive resources like the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group, they are empowered to make strategic, rather than emotional, decisions.
Fears regarding money, kids, and conflict are more easily resolved when victims use a strategic mindset.
Steps To Take Today To Ditch Your Divorce Fears
You can begin ditching your divorce fears today by taking a few steps in the direction of educating and preparing yourself. Coach Debra shares some practical steps:
* Begin gathering financial information, such as tax returns, W2s, and pay stubs.* Do not tell your partner that you are considering divorce - yet. Wait until you have made a firm decision.* Begin researching attorneys in your area.* Establish a simple, daily self-care routine that includes adequate nutrition and hydration so that your basic needs are being met.
BTR Supports You
At BTR we understand the agony of the decision to divorce. We also understand how difficult it can be to ditch those divorce fears.
With support, self-care, and empowerment through education, we know that you can get to safety and create the beautiful, peaceful life that you deserve.
The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group is here for you - to offer you the support, validation, and compassion that you need as you begin your healing journey. Join today.
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