This podcast is for you if you’ve spent years secretly seeking reassurance and approval in your relationships. Now you’re in a period of transition – kids leaving, parents aging, job changing, career shifting, relationship stagnation, identity questioning. You feel like you CAN’T DO IT anymore, but you’re afraid of what happens if you aren’t what others need and expect you to be.You’re in a Midlife Tectonic Shift.Hey there, I’m EZ martin-chan. I midwife female identified and socialized humans through their Midlife Tectonic Shifts. I help you unlearn and disassemble the internalized people pleasing scaffolding – a paradigm culture gifted you. So you can wake up every morning confidently grounded in who the fq you are, and so you can unapologetically step into your rebellious power and BEcome who you are meant to BE. If you want to tame your fears so you can claim your worth and enoughness, and know you are everything the world needs right now …Hit subscribe and be sure to listen weekly.
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episode 14: How to Set Boundaries You Can Stick To
The holidays are quickly approaching – or if you are in the US – they’re here. Humans stuck down, what I call, The People Pleasing Rabbit Hole are often stressed, depressed, angry, frustrated, filled with resentment, and neglect self-care. Experts suggest setting boundaries. But, setting boundaries can be really difficult when what we desire most is connection and belonging. Boundaries can feel counter to our desires.
But if we develop boundaries that naturally arise from a place of knowing our own needs, they can be easier to maintain.
In today’s episode, we learn the strategy of AWW – Awareness, Wants and Whys. AWW allows us to step away from DOing all the things and get intentionally clear on what’s going on internally. We also learn about RP – Realistic and Power. RP helps us to develop actions that come from a place of AWW, by getting clear on what we realistically can control, and exercising our personal power in holiday situations.
Take a listen and learn how these strategies can help you through the holiday season. And, I’ll even teach you an embodied practice that allows you to let hurtful words fly past you in social settings.
Influential sources:
David Weinstock – executive director of Liminal Somatics. Especially see his book Becoming what you need.
About the Host:
Disruptor. Podcaster. Guide.
Elizabeth Martin-Chan helps humxns climb out of the People Pleasing Rabbit Hole so they can know their needs and desires; lovingly embrace their gifts, passions, and dreams; while confidently standing in their innate worth. Elizabeth Martin-Chan is on a mission to subvert self-hate culture and reclaim intuitive wisdom. She is your accomplice in disrupting status quos, so you can reclaim self-acceptance and Fearlessly Thrive in your authentic, innate worth.
Where Elizabeth hangs out:
- IG: @elizabeth.martin.chan
- website: elizabethmartinchan.com
- Email: elizabeth@elizabethmartinchan.com
Resource Links
Grab your free copy of Adventure in Reclaiming Your Life: 5 Secrets Every People Pleasing Woman Should Know Now at reclaimingselfacceptance.com
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