This podcast is for you if you’ve spent years secretly seeking reassurance and approval in your relationships. Now you’re in a period of transition – kids leaving, parents aging, job changing, career shifting, relationship stagnation, identity questioning. You feel like you CAN’T DO IT anymore, but you’re afraid of what happens if you aren’t what others need and expect you to be.You’re in a Midlife Tectonic Shift.Hey there, I’m EZ martin-chan. I midwife female identified and socialized humans through their Midlife Tectonic Shifts. I help you unlearn and disassemble the internalized people pleasing scaffolding – a paradigm culture gifted you. So you can wake up every morning confidently grounded in who the fq you are, and so you can unapologetically step into your rebellious power and BEcome who you are meant to BE. If you want to tame your fears so you can claim your worth and enoughness, and know you are everything the world needs right now …Hit subscribe and be sure to listen weekly.
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episode 17: Is It Always Wrong to Be a People Pleaser?
Asked recently if it is always wrong to be a People Pleaser – I realized that the question provides an opportunity to dive deep. In this episode, I explore motivation, how People Pleasing isn’t who we are, and the self-judgment of the inner critic.
The motivation behind People Pleasing action is important. We can either be seeking acceptance or come from a place that resonates with the core of who we are. Only we can determine if we are People Pleasing – and that sometimes takes some space for self-reflection.
People Pleasing is something that occurs because we are stuck in a place. It is something we do because of a scaffolding we’ve constructed down the People Pleasing Rabbit Hole that makes us believe People Pleasing is necessary. Shifting perspective allows us to release ownership of People Pleasing as a part of who we are.
Sometimes, when we see that we are People Pleasing, we allow our Inner Critic to show up. And that is when we judge ourselves. This is when it is so important that we take to radical self-love and self-acceptance. Acceptance opens the door for different choices today, tomorrow, or down the road.
About the Host:
Disruptor. Podcaster. Guide.
Elizabeth Martin-Chan helps humxns climb out of the People Pleasing Rabbit Hole so they can know their needs and desires; lovingly embrace their gifts, passions, and dreams; while confidently standing in their innate worth. Elizabeth Martin-Chan is on a mission to subvert self-hate culture and reclaim intuitive wisdom. She is your accomplice in disrupting status quos, so you can reclaim self-acceptance and Fearlessly Thrive in your authentic, innate worth.
Where Elizabeth hangs out:
IG: @elizabeth.martin.chan
website: elizabethmartinchan.com
Email: elizabeth@elizabethmartinchan.com
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Grab your free copy of Adventure in Reclaiming Your Life: 5 Secrets Every People Pleasing Woman Should Know Now at reclaimingselfacceptance.com
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