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episode 240: The Truth About Divorce
Harmful divorce myths, under the guise of "family-focused morality" are aimed at keeping women stuck in abusive relationships.
It's time to crush those myths and embrace the truth about divorce.
Gretchen Baskerville is back on the BTR Podcast bringing her expertise, experience, and empowering voice. Tune in to the podcast and read the full transcript below.
The "Marriage At Any Cost" Myth
Organizations like Focus on the Family insist that divorce shatters a child's sense of safety, completely disregarding the fact that a home where abuse is present, is not safe at all.
What really shatters their basic safety is repeated abuse. Anne Blythe, founder of BTR.ORG
Life-Saving divorces aren't just going to save the mother and her own sense of safety - they save children too.
Does Divorce Destroy Children? Permanently?!
One tragically successful scare-tactic is the outdated and disproven myth that divorce absolutely ruins kids. Forever.
Much of this claim comes from the unabashed cherry-picking of Judith Wallerstein's book, "The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce" (which actually supports life-saving divorces).
Divorce does not destroy children. In fact, when children are delivered from two-parent homes where abuse was present, they finally have the opportunity to thrive in a way they never could have when living in an abusive home one-hundred percent of the time.
But I'm Scared To Remarry... Shouldn't I Just Stay Married?
"Better the devil you know than the devil you don't know."
FALSE.
Perhaps the most pervasive fear-mongering tactic to keep women in abusive marriages is the idea that if they divorce and remarry, they are almost certainly setting their children up to be abused by a future partner.
It does not happen as often as these organizations want you to believe. So, for example, it is about about four in 100 stepparent families (blended families that have reported an incident of child abuse of any kind). So it's four in 100. If that's what's holding you in your abusive marriage because your next relationship would have a four in 100 chance, I think you better rethink that.Gretchen Baskerville, Author
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WhAA-ir2Rbc
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