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D-Day Story: I Gave Up Trying To Stop My Husband's Pornography Addiction
How Sex Addiction Affected My Home As the wife of a sex addict for 30 years, she had many D-days. For a wife, pornography use feels just like a betrayal. For two reasons: 1. The lies surrounding pornography addiction are a betrayal in and of themselves. Lies are traumatizing to a wife. 2. The infidelity of the pornography use and masturbation. A man who uses pornography and masturbates cannot be emotionally or sexually faithful to his wife.
On this particular day, she gave up. Her marriage situation was no longer tenable. This was the beginning of her recovery. Before this, she had focused so much on her husband's needs, enabling the addiction to continue. Abusive men lie. Don't believe what he tells out yourself. If a man cheats, it is 100% his responsibility. He will try to channel your anger toward anything and everything else. Sex addicts love to portray themselves as unable to control their hormonal urges. Which is yet another lie. Abusive men may also create the impression that their anger or infidelity is a product of how passionate they are - but in reality, passion, kindness and faithfulness are entirely compatible. Being dishonest, abusive and unfaithful has nothing to do with passion.
When someone lies to you, they take away your dignity. Kant said that a person's intrinsic worth (human dignity) allows them to act as rational as possible and make their own decisions. But when you're being lied to, it harms your dignity by purposefully withholding key information that a person needs to make key decisions.