This podcast is about how I found SAL after my husband started using pornography again. I realized how bad my situation was after he was arrested on a domestic violence charge.Abuse Is A Form Of Betrayal
At the time, I didn't realize I was in a verbally abusive relationship, but I did know that I couldn't handle the physical intimidation anymore. I have learned that the fear I felt when he punched walls, kicked things, etc, was very real because physical intimidation in and of itself is domestic violence. The physical and emotional abuse I suffered while trying to help my husband overcome his pornography addiction, led me to the point of despair. I knew that my life and my husband's behavior was totally and completely unmanageable. When I found out about my husband's pornography addiction, I thought I knew how to deal with infidelity. I was wrong.Abuse of Wives and Pornography Addiction / Sex Addiction Generally Go Together
Many women in SAL come because of their husband's infidelity. For me his pornography use felt just like it, and I knew if he didn't get help, it would lead to affairs. Many of the women in my group have suffered from that exact same escalation of events. I hope the infidelity stories, or rather the stories of healing after infidelity will help other women start their recovery. Dealing with abuse and pornography in my marriage with a positive attitude and sheer grit, didn't get me anywhere.
Being in recovery for betrayal trauma has helped me change my behaviors, so I could see the truth about myself and my situation.