Have you experienced the fear, confusion, and betrayal when your husband uses Child Sex Abuse Material (formerly known as child pornography)?
Nora is back on the BTR.ORG podcast - her ex-husband was a CSAM user and is currently in prison. Tune in to the BTR.ORG podcast and read the full transcript below for more.
A Life-Altering Experiencing
Many women in the BTR.ORG community have faced immense betrayal trauma when their husbands or ex-husbands have been in possession of Child Sex Abuse Material.
Victims of CSAM users may experience:
* Fear * Rage* Grief* Shame* Embarrassment* Denial* Avoidance* Numbness* Revulsion
Deciding to Report CSAM
Victims often fear for their future - understanding that CSAM is a crime, they may feel immense inner turmoil as they make the decision to report.
Some women feel that they're betraying their husbands. Others fear for their own reputation or for their children. Some feel anxiety for the future if they have been a stay-at-home parent and the CSAM user has been the financial provider for the household.
CSAM is a serious crime for a reason - it is actively harming children and youth in the worst possible way. Please consider booking a session with Coach Renee, who can help you navigate reporting CSAM use.
BTR.ORG Is Here For You
At BTR.ORG, we know how confusing, painful, and terrifying it is to discover that your husband is using Child Sex Abuse Material. His decision to commit this crime affects your entire family.
The BTR.ORG Group Sessions are a safe place for you to process this trauma. Join us today.
Anne (00:00):Welcome to BTR.ORG. This is Anne. I have Nora Taylor back on today's episode. I sometimes called her Nora and sometimes Taylor, it's an alias we're using to protect her. But if you didn't hear that intro to her story last week, go listen there first and then join us here today. In this episode, you'll hear the acronym CSAM, which stands for child sex abuse material.
(03:41):Some people call this child pornography. We call it child sexual abuse material here, because that is what it is. So when you hear that acronym, you'll know what we're talking about. We're just gonna jump right in. This is such an interesting story because so many women experience these same exact things. They experience the lack of empathy, the lack of him caring about their feelings, you know, all of that stuff. So this is really, really interesting and I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry that this happened to you and I was so, it sounds like a nightmare. Let's talk about the rest of the story. What happened after you found this child sexual abuse material? So how did your experiences with DV and counseling professionals, law enforcement, the courts, how did that exacerbate your trauma?
Did the Legal System Exacerbate Nora's Trauma?
Nora (04:34):It actually, whenever I think of this, now that I've been listening to your podcast,