Betrayal Trauma Recovery - BTR.ORG

Have you felt confused by misogynistic religious indoctrination like "God Hates Divorce"? 
Teachings like these ignore accountability and ultimately discourage women from seeking safety. 
Emily is back on the BTR.ORG podcast with Anne. Together, they discuss how they hold on to their own beliefs while seeking safety from abuse. Tune in to the BTR.ORG podcast and read the full transcript below for more. 
Abusive Indoctrination Harms Women
Abusive indoctrination is a serious problem within faith communities of every paradigm. Teachings like:

* "God hates divorce"
* "Divorce ruins families"
* "Women are subservient to men"
* "Women should submit to their husbands"

Condition women to ignore abuse, and abusers are often not held accountable. 
Focus On "Deliverance"
Victims can choose to focus on the concept of "deliverance" found in many religious texts and teachings. 
Anne shares,

I encourage women to pray for are two things. Pray for deliverance and pray for a life of peace. What is my next step? How can I establish peace in my home? What would you like me to do? And he will lead and guide you to whatever that is. 
Anne Blythe, Founder of BTR.ORG

BTR.ORG Is Here For You
At BTR, we know how difficult it can be to separate deeply ingrained religious teachings while still hoping to hold on to dearly held faith traditions. The BTR.ORG Group Sessions are a safe place for you to process difficult emotions and share your experiences. Attend a session today. 
Full Transcript:
Anne (00:00):Welcome to BTR.ORG. This is Anne. 
I have Emily, a member of our community back on today's episode. So Emily and I shared the same faith, and I wanna do, I don't know, not necessarily a trigger warning, but an explanation of this episode. There's some parts that we edited out, um, for privacy's sake, but Emily and I were having a conversation and she was asking me how I keep my faith.
(03:36):So I just went ahead and talked about my faith. If you are not interested in that, just you can turn it off when we get to that point or keep listening. Um, the purpose of this podcast is not to proselyte. We're all just here sharing from our own experience. So the point of me talking to her is just sharing my own experience and my own views, and we respect that. Everyone has different views around here. As you've heard on the podcast, uh, women come from all different religions or different paradigms or no religion. Everyone is welcome here. If you did not listen to last week's episode, go there. Listen to that first, and then join us here. We start off talking about where she is right now in her situation. So we'll just jump right in. So where are you now in your situation? Do you feel like you've established some peace or do you feel like you're still sort of being cycled through the abuse?
"It's So Hard" 
Emily (04:29):It's still a cycle. I have established more peace. I have definitely been able to recognize my relationship for what it is I am. I am able to recognize patterns and behaviors that before I wouldn't have recognized what they were, but it's really hard. It's so hard. I've, I've never been able to get to the point where I can make a concrete decision to stay or to go. And it's almost like sometimes I almost wish I would find him in another affair so that I could have that reason of, okay, I really can leave. But right now it's like this in between where I feel like exactly what you're saying earlier, like he hasn't, he's aware of what he needs to do,