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Today’s episode is brought to you by our friends at Feeld, the dating app for the curious! The theme of the day is spitting it out - from feelings to actual fluids, comedian Alison Stevenson and Lina have you completely covered. With information....

That’s me in the corner… that’s me in the… somewhat challenging aftercare predicament? A listener calls in about how to engineer proper aftercare in a cucking scene, and Lina reassures them that sometimes it’s ok to experiment with big...

Bae Leche dropped by the pod to talk about being a non-monogamous mom, dating while pregnant, and new corners of her sexuality she’s discovering in the midst of parenting. Come for the fire pregnancy nudes, stay for the warm-hearted acceptance for...

Kink arrives in your life looking like a problem, but it’s really a solution. In this episode, Lina leads a listener through the daunting moment of taking stock of your submissive fantasies with the empathy of somebody a little further down the...

A listener asks the age-old question of where the line is with public humiliation kinks and involving bystanders, and Lina dives in with things to consider before you go to the grocery store with the f-word written across your forehead.   Listen...

How can you date again after a D/s relationship turns abusive? You start by dating your intuition.   To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends,  starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby...

A listener calls in after someone told her saying she’s kinky means she’s probably not looking for anything serious. Obviously this is not true, but Lina also had some thoughts on the relationship escalator, community care, and how to see people...

I’ve been through some shit lately and wanted to share the ways people have supported me so you can support those in your life who are also going through shit. We will be back to our regular format next week. Love you all.  Get my essay about...

Disability advocate, sex toy creator, and host of Disability After Dark Andrew Gurza joins us to talk all about non-binary identity, dating while disabled, and how we can improve accessibility in kinky and queer spaces. To get this full episode, go to...

A sub is concerned that her Dom’s wife is going to veto their dynamic and wonders how she can modify her behavior to make the wife more comfortable. Lina talks about which feelings we have control over (only our own) and how to give yourself grace...